My name is Charity Omorogiuwa.
I was married to a man for 2 yeas and 8 months before my husband died and left me with our only son.
I suffered and raised my kid alone because I was neglected by my husband’s people. I returned to my parents when my husband’s people started making attempts to kill my son because of property. I left everything for them and took my son and ran.
My father and a few uncles returned the dowry.
My son is 14-years-old now and a man i have been in a relationship with for about 4 months now is asking my hand in marriage. I told him what happened to me and that I have a child. He said no problem, that he loves me not my past.
However the problem now is that he asked me not to let anyone in his family know that I have a child. I asked him why and he said his mother and family will not be in support if they find out that I have a grown-up son.
I have been thinking about the whole thing and I dont know what to do.
My mother-in-law to be is very nice to me and I know that she will be greatly disappointed if she finds out in the future that I hid such a thing from her. I also dont know if its wrong to deny my only son just to get married again.
I love this man and he cares for me deeply.
Please, how do I go about this?
forget him, he’s not a man enough and is not the right man for you,
If he cannot accept your son then better stay clear of the marriage, God will provide another loveing husband and father for you and your son believe it. it is well
He is not a good Husband to married so don’t
Don’t ever try it,if the man love you he will accept everything about you
Na by force , l beg let him go is not d best man for u
Think again pls. If a man truly love u, knowing that u have a son, he will have to love ur son first like his very own. The flashes might just have been there just that u were too carried away to notice. Let him go pls.
If dat is y u r crying then u must b a Fool..so wat r u thinking?
HE IS nt ready 2 marry u, ur son is ur husband u dnt need him
Nkemakonam Chukwu u just want attention. Go n check ur past to b sure u don’t av a child somewhere
Are u sure u can live without a husband
Deny nd make God punish u!
Na by force to marry the man!! help your self
Had that before and still went ahead with the wedding it was a failure as no mother will be happy seeing her children badly treated
True love is taking the whole package that does not harm you. Marrying someone with only one child doesn’t necessarily make one feel responsible of a baggage.
Then don’t marry him.That is no issue you should be crying woman.God is bring that man who will love your son as his.
Just leave his sorry ass and take care of your flesh more over blood is thicker than water. No love lost no love found.
this is not a real Husband for You ! LEAF HIM !
U don’t nid advice cos it’s v clear & u can c wit ur eyes dt he doesn’t luv everytin abt u…U can’t deny ur son in d name of marriage.His he d one man remaining to b married?
U better face ur child n leave him alone coz that’s ur own gain
My mum shows me lots of love. How can she do without me or without my two brothers and sister. You have ur source of joy which is ur son. Ur son will love u more than any man on earth. If u denounce him cos of that man-bitch. He will never forgive u. Let go that man, he is not worth it. If u still want to marry God will provide a man that will love u no matter ur flaws .
Must you marry him. After he will dump. And where wi you get another son? Rubbish
Do u wnt to marry God..abomination
A man who loves u will wish to make u da happiest woman.if it takes your tears to marry him u don’t need dat marriage.
Toto no go scratch you?
This is simple.the man loves u n your son all but he knows his family more than you…he just want the marriage to work out,the son issue is between 2 of you…i face the same situation before but my ex never listing she went ahead n disclose everything to the family but after the marriage my family started a very hot argument creating mess here n there with her n i have no choice to divorce because i can’t take the curses of my parent.
U rather marry ur son
There is nothing there that you need help with,just forget him. Because days to come when he finish using you he is going to forget you and try it with someone else, and then where is your greatest life time companion that got bless you with. He as long forgotten you ,your child who will always be there to talk to you in thick and tin days. Don’t be a fool lady.
Dis is stupid
Chop likes they should ve place a love bottom
Not good man to marry my dear. No need to decide forget that trash and take care of your son he needs you? be a parent to him and love your self and love your son ?surrender yourself to Christ and He will lead you to the right path of life ☝️
U don’t need any advice just leave him he is not a human being
For get about d man
All this advice is not necessary she knows the right thing to do.most women just prefer having a man in their life than their kids.so any body u feel would make ur life better go ahead
Forget about him, throw him one side, bring your son closer.
You don’t need help, I think you’re so foolish to ask help from people on this matter. YOUR SON is your CHILD, your PRIDE, your FUTURE, your HOPE, your EVERYTHING, you carried him in your womb for 9 GOOD MONTHS. I believe that man would leave u someday cos definitely, he doesn’t love u and you’d search for ur son and you won’t find him. You really need a HOT SLAP to wake up from your slumber. IDIOT!!!
That’s why people like you with low mentality fall into the hands of dubious men and women. What has he got to offer you when God has a better purpose for you, put your trust in God.
Lady for DAT man opened his mouth said u should deny ur flesh and blood he is an agent that want to destroy ur joy ur hope in the name of he want to marry you that is lie he knows his mention he know DAT if ur son go with you after the marry he can not accomplished his mention did t u want to be alive and train ur son if yes live DAT man and run 4 ur der life his heart is full with evil intention 4 u
That man is Evil, my sister run ooo
I don’t think you need anyone’s help you know your son comes first if he doesn’t want to take him as him then show him the door
He is a fool he doesn’t love u. He want u to deny ur and he dump u pls don’t try it
This is nonsense, leave that stupid man alone and go tend to your child
For get am. luv me and luv my dog bam no two ways abt this
Deny ur insurance for old age? Haba u rather stay single coz u are blessed already
Resist the devil and he will flew from you… Wait on God because Godly marriage comes from the Most High God
Why do u need this man pls deny the man now
He should go to hell god for biend
If he really love you he will marry you with your son,All let go way, At the end you will lost him that tells you is not a good person.
He does not love you, if he did he would love EVERYTHING about you, past, present and future! Good bad and ugly too
YOUR CHILD COMES FIRST, THAT MAN DON’T LOVE YOU. YOUR CHILD IS FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE , YOUR HUSBAND DIED………GOD WILL SEND YOU THE RIGHT MAN.
Thats not the meaning of true love
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Daniel Olwakunmi yes
Nothing to hell with! Screw him! Fun another husband.
You never should’ve married someone with such an issue. Things like that down dissolve.
ur child or ur marriage. alternative principle
Don’t do it if he don’t luv ur son Dat means he don’t luv u madam
Today its your son. Next it will be your relatives. Blood is thicker than water. Your relationship with your son is worth more than that of this man. Leave him, he is not worth the loss of your son.
Keep your son with you… forget that offer of marriage it’ s not worth it and nothing serious in your relarionship…you can find another who will accept your son and treat like his own…
Marriage na by force, most u be married for christ sake?
Rubbish!!!,must you remarry? You guys talk about marriage as if it leads to heaven
@Jessica you must be married baby mama not an African name ask your mom.
Woman you better clean your nonsense tears before I loose my temper,just go face your son’s feature that’s your number one priority
Then why are you killing your self is the only man?
Deep in your heart you know what to do U0001f614
Foolish man move on
Must you marry him
U maybe confuse and scared but the truth is dat ur child is ur flesh, ur blood and ur feature’ so don’t throw dat away bcs of one stranger that may leave u for another tomorrow
ma dear dnt even try it dat man want 2 create enemity bw u n ur son dnt be suprise dat after dening ur son dat devil wil nt mary u sn stay clear, i cal dis type of person dream kiler remain blessd bc d joy of d Lord is streght
Man forget her,NCOs ur son is ur blood he can’t divorce u till kingdom comes but ur wife can divorce u at her own wish
Mother a man can abandon u but u child will nva do so, just forget abt him n let u son be u priority mum
Let him go.
Advice from a woman ‘s heart, this man doesn’t love you or neither accept you the way you are and what you you have. my advice is, don’t enter this marriage or else you will suffer for the rest of your life. God will send you a man who will accept you and your son, don’t get tired of waiting. Please don’t, your child must be your number ONE priority please, it is not easy in labor, but useless man don’t know that.
Tell him to Deny himself. Your son is from God not from man. God will give you a man that will Love you and your son. God bless
Don’t marry him your son is your life