I’m a single woman in my 30’s and my problem is that I cannot find a man and I honestly have no idea why. I’mattractive and all my friends say I’m a nice
person. I’m aware that you can meet a man at any time, not just when you’re out socially on Saturday nights, so I never step out of the house looking anything less than perfect. I keep to my trim figure, dress nicely, well-groomed and, because I was aware I was being too choosy, I’ve tried hard to give men I don’t even fancy a chance. But now men just don’t seem to find me attractive at all. I don’t get chatted up though I make sure that I look friendly and approachable when l’m out. l’m at my wits’ end and honestly don’t know what else to do. Philo, by e-mail
Dear Philo,
Your whole being seems to be devoted to finding this person, who, I suspected, you feel will complete you. You’re not just eager to meet someone, it has become an obsession.
The problem with being so fanatical about something is that it makes you come across as a bit neurotic. Men spot desperate women a mile off and the sensible, nice ones, make a run for it realising you want a life-jacket, not a boyfriend. The not so nice men single you out, figuring you’re a great candidate for someone they can treat badly, knowing you’ll put up with it because you’ll do anything not to be alone. You don’t sound like you are at that stage yet, but you’re not far of! You need to stop looking and turn all this energy inward.
Throw yourself into enjoying your career, enjoy your friends rather than using them as emotional crutches, read books, see movies you like, go to the gym, make new friends and find new things to enjoy. Also stop looking so perfect. Nails always polished, not a hair out of place could put people of! You sound like the girl who turns up at a barbecue in killer-heels and your little black dress when everyone else is in casuals, just in case there might be a single man present. This is termed ‘the single girl look’ and it’s often unattractive. For a change, aim for the just got out of bed look.’
This is bound to attract more men as they see a woman who looks perfect, and not think ‘high maintenance’ or ‘she must be desperate for a man’. If you really want to get a man, leave your hair all messy, pull on your oldest pair of your favourite jeans, add a pair of casual slippers and a vest, but make sure your bra is showing. Put on the barest minimum of make-up and a mysterious smile that says ‘who cares in meet a man? I’m here to have fun!’ and see what happens. Then sit back and enjoy all the attention that is bound to come your way.
Check your behaviors and attitudes…how do you treat men and how do you see them? Many of you have joined feminism and that’s why there are more single mothers and unmarriageable single ladies these days. So, check yourself correctly and then come back here for advise.
you problem is solved inbox me and i ll start d toasting immediatly
because u are not a bread
How una wan take marry wit all this bad character girls the show case
That’s because u pushed most men away wen u wer In your youthful age
R u a toast bread?
Moth of dressing should change, cut ur demand or cost according to the economy situation in d country, stop demanding from them, and finally dedicate to ur creator.
Are u not okay..tell me
u don finish tired..now u re lookin for men 2 toast u, whre were u doin durin ur early 20s.. or may b u look down on men
Well said. It is better to wait cause God’s timing is always the right timing. I have no kids and single in my middle thirties but i do not hurt my head over that cause i know that God is in control so i urge this young lady to be patient and have faith
May be u need a deliverance.why not go to V p A in Baking?
Go to your parents and family to reconcile with them. Ask for mercy…
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A woman with a beauty without brain, her private part suffers a lot.
Men like sleeping with beautiful women but they dislike to marry those who have been sleeping with guys. The easiest woman to date is a beautiful woman because she thinks as long as she is beautiful she can have another one whenever she wants. Then she will end up being used by many guys.
I see this as a joke
Ahh oh OK am available for her!!
Women which way??? We toast u;Its a problem, we dont toast u;Its a bigger problem. Habaaaa!!!!!
Oh sorry Madam, maybe you selected too much for the pass
Go ask God
Check ur attitude beb
The economy is coursing a lot of men to shy away from relationship
There will be a lovely man a soul mate for you U0001f339
Because you are not bread my dear sis
You will get one soon
Because you are not bread.
Because u re a decent lady..luk@ ur self..
Your attitude must be bad for your age. Change it.
God will make away for you.
CALL GOD, TO HELP YOU OUT……U0001f60dU0001f495U0001f493U0001f44d
True talk @mr Walker…. She should just b calm &pray 2 God 2take over her life &God will send sum1 who needed real Luv…not sex..#shegzyyuan
It’s simple, toast men if they dont toast you. Life is too short to be asking yeye question
Ba girmanka bane malam da postn irin wannan zinan ko da yake anan malantana
Obviously because u r not bread U0001f61c
Are you a bread?
Ask your prophet the problem.. or inbox me yah number
Please tell her that I’m interested on her
Who son is this can his mom come get him plz lol
Bunbadmind Bunbadmind
She wants toast from guys , definitely am gonna give her overdose of it U0001f602U0001f602
Bunbadmind Bunbadmind ouuch my bad but just hve 2 say it babe
why do you want men to toast you?…are you butter bread???
Call village to know who ur father took his land cos of greed…..so he went to herbalist to make u not attracted to men and stop complaining……..just advice oooo
May b u look expensive
Who would want to take commitment and responsibilities
U are welcome OK. Inbox me me my dear
its simple,, if men do not toast u then u should toast them
Take part no good wash well
Because u Re expied
Atractiviness has deceived u n u think the Wohle Worms was urs
Maybe you are open and close type.
Shebi u bn d do shakara
babby it mine u are waiting , 4 done sup jo, i can advise u if u re waitin for dat u will stay long o
Because the oven has crumbled na….lol.
change location and you will be a fresh there ,
Becaus u went to and sleept ur father meet that its why they run away for u .monkey sorry.
Beauty attracts men but wisdom keeps them. Elegance catches men attention but intelligence convinces them. Nagging irritates men but constructive silence weakens them. The ‘boy’ in everyman pumps out occasionally, your ability to handle this, is a woman’s truest maturity. Men have secret struggles and silent pains, should you ever find them out exhibit the greatest maturity. In the long – run your ‘words’ matters more to a man than your ‘looks’, so invest the right words. Earn a man’s respect and he will consider you the yard stick for all his action. Learn to mould the moods of your man. Men will naturally give you their futures if they can recall your maturity in yesterday’s issues.. Women are everywhere but queens are scarce. Let the queen in you come alive and he will hold you in high esteem
Lady come to Apapa, many men are there that will tosat you.
If men don’t toast you, then toast men Hahahahahahahahah before you know it e go ready to chop like toasted bread
Go back to your x the one you dating when you were a teen
Maybe because their toaster is spoilt
Please pray the Lord this is the solution for your problem
Nigerians are so funny,dis pix is taken from d video chuga,pls stop deceiving people with it
Did u jst say no longer …….. Eehya pele dnt worri u jst 30 dea will come …. ONLY God knws…. U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602
My dear, clean your eyes and believe in God. He will give you someone strong enough to accept who you are. And also respect yourself, stop hanging yourself were you are not.
When she ws in her early or late 20s those guys dat have been coming were nt her level but na she need them. Fools………….
But boys are toasting you sha? Jst take it like that joor
Beautiful……harlot …..only your customers but real men that know your moves cannot and will not talk to you ….repent live a good life …by example ….and real men comesU0001f62d
haaba! people still blame this on Nigeria’s economy?
bcaus u are arrogant
when there were toasting u den what do u do?
Think about your past and find a solution , your past is at u check out
Are you till single?
Is because they focus on making money and what about those poor guy toasting you are they not men? Hypocrisy !! Just tell us why rich guy ain’t toasting you
Make una tell her to send me her number
I need a girl with God fearing tall
I need a girl with God fearing tall
Men are no longer toasting u and u said u are attractive.
Your time has passed, go and look for sugar daddy.. lol
Looking for Mr right fyn? Wasting your time dat one at the left better quickly drag him to your right is getting late
Sorry u hear, but its the law of diminishing return.
This is what happens when you don’t want to get into men’s ‘boxes’ while in your 20s. Your expiry date is here!
U be bread?????
We have to blame it on something otherwise we’ll run out of excuses
here is the best solution………go and join NPA nigeria prostitute assembly you will surely meet handsome guy there
The husband God created for you, is probably one of those guys in sambisa fighting Boko haram. Most of them don’t marry, so my sister take heart.
God loves you ok
Go back to your root for a liberation!!!
It’s very simple Ladies…all you need is to be the real woman, and a real Man will definitely come’s to you. there’re many who need you…but your pride or what i called “LEVEL” will not allow you to welcome them.
Lolzzzzzz check well.maybe all d men don slip wit u finish. Why not commit suicide
Because u expose ur body anyhow
How to you want to be toasted my darling???U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f61cU0001f61cU0001f61cU0001f61cU0001f61dU0001f61dU0001f61dU0001f61dU0001f61dU0001f61dU0001f61dU0001f60fU0001f60fU0001f60f
After publishing this story, I am sure a lot of men would be looking for you. Lol! But if still there won’t be anyone who would want to want you after all that you’ve said about yourself; “VERY ATTRACTIVE”, I don’t know girl. There must be wrong with your society. Or maybe, just maybe, it’s your age. Ain’t sure. But do not be saddened by “singledom”. It’s okay. Remember, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
blame islam,r u out of ur mind
@kareem… shey any problem in nigeria na islam dem dey blame or buhari
Because our black men thinks, younger is better when is comes to women of which is sad…
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It because ur story has gone round u to like form no guy loves long problem
Ur vag probably stinks down there lol…or maybe d way u present urself too high… Ur level of presentation can also scares men away.
Ohh ma dear,pls dnt be in a rush n fall in to a pit,cos u will regret it more dan where u r nown
For sake ur way an follow Jesus
Because you are now finished.