I’m a single woman in my 30’s and my problem is that I cannot find a man and I honestly have no idea why. I’mattractive and all my friends say I’m a nice
person. I’m aware that you can meet a man at any time, not just when you’re out socially on Saturday nights, so I never step out of the house looking anything less than perfect. I keep to my trim figure, dress nicely, well-groomed and, because I was aware I was being too choosy, I’ve tried hard to give men I don’t even fancy a chance. But now men just don’t seem to find me attractive at all. I don’t get chatted up though I make sure that I look friendly and approachable when l’m out. l’m at my wits’ end and honestly don’t know what else to do. Philo, by e-mail
Dear Philo,
Your whole being seems to be devoted to finding this person, who, I suspected, you feel will complete you. You’re not just eager to meet someone, it has become an obsession.
The problem with being so fanatical about something is that it makes you come across as a bit neurotic. Men spot desperate women a mile off and the sensible, nice ones, make a run for it realising you want a life-jacket, not a boyfriend. The not so nice men single you out, figuring you’re a great candidate for someone they can treat badly, knowing you’ll put up with it because you’ll do anything not to be alone. You don’t sound like you are at that stage yet, but you’re not far of! You need to stop looking and turn all this energy inward.
Throw yourself into enjoying your career, enjoy your friends rather than using them as emotional crutches, read books, see movies you like, go to the gym, make new friends and find new things to enjoy. Also stop looking so perfect. Nails always polished, not a hair out of place could put people of! You sound like the girl who turns up at a barbecue in killer-heels and your little black dress when everyone else is in casuals, just in case there might be a single man present. This is termed ‘the single girl look’ and it’s often unattractive. For a change, aim for the just got out of bed look.’
This is bound to attract more men as they see a woman who looks perfect, and not think ‘high maintenance’ or ‘she must be desperate for a man’. If you really want to get a man, leave your hair all messy, pull on your oldest pair of your favourite jeans, add a pair of casual slippers and a vest, but make sure your bra is showing. Put on the barest minimum of make-up and a mysterious smile that says ‘who cares in meet a man? I’m here to have fun!’ and see what happens. Then sit back and enjoy all the attention that is bound to come your way.
Because you don’t know how to toast bread.
U be bread?
May be you are not a nice person?.. good looks are not everything…
Check yourself very well they must be something wrong in you
Because the economy is not smiling
His it toasting you want or marriage
Are you a toasterU0001f602U0001f602
Witches in your village are after you
Amend your character
Cause u don expire I beg go find some old men out there cause we dey eye 19 20 years babe to toast hear ??
Go and ask ur ancestors dear
GO TO TB JOSHUA FOR DELIVERANCE FROM SPIRITUAL HUSBAND
Cause ur expired
Seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness first dear, and all these you crave for will be added onto you.
In that case try women U0001f61cU0001f61c
In that case try women U0001f61cU0001f61c
Amend your ways
U don’t no Christ
It is because you cannot cook and pray for one hour
Are yu looking for toasting men or a man? Abeg, yu need a godly man to settle down wit
U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602. Why na??
so a lady of 30 has expired right? I wonder how some of you think oi
Could this be you???????
MA DEAR AM 23 CAN YOU MANAGE ME
Are you a bread?
I tire oooo!!
we can help oyu just send your numbers millions will toasting
u need prayer
Have you ask God Almighty to help you? If ur friends says that u are a good person, but are u realy a good person? I have so many lady friends who are beautiful, elegants, but inwardly, they have smelling characters. Figure, beauty, status, will not five u husbands or real male friends but attitude, character, will. Soul searching
Maybe you have out dated
My dear economy too bad!….
Eni Samuel, excuse him, you can see he’s immature. He is not to blame
If they don’t toast u toast them no wahala
Unmarried Nigerians, when real husband will come you people’s way instead of be of good behaviour. No you will use the guy as boyfriend at last you will be blaming God. Like seriously, no young guys are really ready to marry most of young guys want to have piece of you and dump you and because of the high taste it would be difficult for many Nigerian girls to get husband. Most guy need children now, but not a wife
Pray about it because you’ll get married, and look @ your character, look are your past and make amends…all will be well.
Sista ur bread has expired dat is Y, It nw smells of Fungi milles Away from ur pix Hole
30years is not just, u are very old.
Grow up man.
My advice to this young babe, repentance is what you need now. And don’t think the best husband are found inside Churches, no, going to Church is total submission to the creator himself and change the way you are conducting yourself. Good guys are still out there watching out for humble girls to marry, I know for sure you will found good husband. Remain bless as you do these.IJN.Amen
Find your self first
Ur shakara too much!
Check ur attitude
Turn your self to lesbian that should be the best …..
Hahahh… Of course for a boy of 15 year old a lady of 30 have expired for him nah…lol
You have been choosy, ego and self confidence is much…I read your article well n I must say you hav to pipe low…bcos to guys you look weird..God will help you in ur search
God is time is the best
Toasting,kai u be bread
U are seeking to be toasted’ are u bread?
U called 30 years Just? Hmm
There are more younger babes with finer faces out there…ur too old nowU0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602
The time you are younger and men killing themselves to be with you,if that makes you think you are too quality and needs time to enjoy life..there will come a time when the ones who used to follow you will never do and even the ones you never wanted will not also want you…at 30 when will you start a relationship and prepare for marriage when the beautiful ones are now growing up…Girls need to grow up and know the difference between enjoying your life and wasting your time…
Good luck anyways..U0001f44c
Yea…toasting, u be bread?
Because you ‘re too harsh to men.
Sure a female at 30 is almost expired you should get married atleast between age 18-28 as a female
Go on fasting nd prayers
Search your conscience faa
At 30 baby gal you wasting your time now to them you are old
There is a reason belv in God dat man DAT have kept for wiil come for u in jesue name
you planted bad crops and your time of harvest is here n u r making noise on social media
Hahahaha nwa mazi….
Check ur character
Come here i’m ready to toast you U0001f600
Inbox me or you call me on 09057643565 that’s my whatsapp number too
Yeahbut its also a fact…deal with it
You be bread when man go toast you?
Lol.. I guess not yet Gods time for you
Its because ur spiritual husband is at work lwkmh
u think u speak nice?
“Toasting me”? WTF , are you a slice of bread or what ???????
You have chased all the men meant for u away wit your Po! Po! Iya, mschew! Naw ya crying mschew!
Retrace your steps
Wat Happen To Ur Ex~~cos I Knw U Are Not A Virgin Nor May Be U Cant Cook Well Or U Are Not Good In Many Ways To Calld A Wife
Hahahahahahahahahah Hahahahahahahahahah Niger people kwenu! Iyaaa! Wow I love reading una comments.
You can go ahead n toast dem if you really need dem
Cos when you were in your 20s you were bluffing them
U never see anything yet, this is what will happened to all the black woman who refused to answer men wen they call u. White ladies are dying for us but u re there doing shakara. U Toto go smell
No I don’t.
I think you should blame islam or abi na change cos am
Cos we are broke lols
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The thing you know you are doing to others, if it was done to you, you would be happy about it, that’s your problem!
How is your personal hygiene?
Check your breath.
Men don’t like BO!
We hate attractive women with nasty attitude, they just as stink as BO.
Negligent, lazy, can’t cook, bad mouth, those are some things we found in women as a curse.
Do you have any of those or other bad habit, you thinking to yourself a man must accept in order to have you.
There are some women that’s attractive that do men good if they stay away from us men. Say you gay, or something!
It’s because most men knows their wife at 20s
Then toast them
The younger the wine in this situation,the sweeter. I guess your mama didn’t tell you that. SorryU0001f609
It’s very possible
Is your father stilll alive? Very funny
Cz you old and used up..shebi you thought you’d remain young and beautiful forever when you were being a promiscuous gwef
Knw he did not speak nice,it’s u who speaks nice lol @sahay
amend ur ways.
Give me your number
Attractive ladies with no brains have their private parts suffer . ….by now every man would have discovered something amiss….
Y una d take am personal lyk dis? Is she ur family member. Lol!
come na me dey o
If you won’t them to toast you then you can bribe them
Am sorry dear pray to God nothing God can not do. Inbox me or you call me 08068625110
Are you bread!?!…huh?
Even your manner of complaint says it all….correct yourself and go back to when you were being selective and rude…that will help….#retarded
go to deliver in church not just church in a living church
Lolzzzzzz………..ur ar dirty mouthed dude………u close d case
Na ur ancestors curse U
Pray for forgiveness of sin very important