So You’ve been going out for quite a while now and things have been going really well.
You get along well with each other despite all the differences between the two of you.
You want to make it official but there are so many things you’re uncertain about.
You’re not sure if it’s too soon or should you give it more time.
You don’t know if she is ready yet.
Most importantly, you have doubts about it working out and dread getting hurt yourself or hurting her in the process.
These fears go away when you know she’s The One. Because then you’d give everything to make it work and never back out regardless of how harsh circumstances become.
Following are a few of the many signs that assure you that she is in fact the one;
You only have eyes for her
She may seem ordinary to the whole world, but to you she is the most attractive girl you’ve ever met. You’re never distracted by any other women. Even in a room full of women, your eyes only search for your girl. You don’t feel like you’d miss out on anything even if she’s the only one you’ll ever be with.
She’s the reason behind your smile
Whenever you take a moment to think of her, even when you’re occupied, you can’t help but smile. All you can think about is how exceptionally amazing she is in so many ways, how she makes you laugh and how lucky you are to have her. And how she makes you feel special just by looking at you.
She accepts you for who you are
She embraces you, not just the good parts but the whole of you. She not only tells you that you’re perfect the way you are, but also proves it in her own way. The parts of you that you were once afraid of even showing to her are acceptable to her. Not only that, but she also helps you deal with your fears. She reassures you that all your flaws fall perfectly together to make you who you are and that they are nothing to be ashamed of.
Your Shared Interests Include More Than Hobbies
Hey, if your girlfriend likes the same TV shows, books, and movies as you, that’s awesome. However — as guys — we have to accept that not every woman is going to be as diehard of a Star Wars fan as you’re going to be. Shared life interests go far beyond mutual hobbies. Living your life in a similar fashion to someone else with similar core beliefs is huge. For instance, if she cares as much as about her family as you do, you’ll never have to be involved in a stupid fight about who goes where for the holidays. (For the record, Star Wars is still an amazing movie.)
You Resolve Your Fights
Every couple will fight and anyone who lives differently is living in a fantasy-land that more or may not be made entirely of bubblegum and candy. You can tell you’re made for each other when fights don’t rip you both at the seams. When those little scuffles and arguments build up and get under your skin, they weigh on each partner and can eventually drive people apart. However, fixing fights and actually talking through them is a luxury a lot of people don’t consider when all keyed up and angry. When you fight, you two take a few minutes to yourself, cool off, and talk about a solution. The make up sex is a bonus.
You Can Travel Together
Traveling with your life partner is one of the most fun ways to travel — because, let’s be real, not everyone has the capacity to aimlessly wander about Europe with a backpack and bottle of whiskey. When you travel together — and you should travel together — do your different personalities clash, or complement each other? If you’re able to go on vacations and day-trips without going insane from fighting, you’re doing something right.
You Can Live Together
Living together under the same roof actually may be one of the biggest struggles in a relationship. If the act of moving in together doesn’t drive you crazy, figuring out how to get over the bliss that is living by yourself and eating fried chicken in bed until 3 a.m. will really show you what you’re capable of as a human being. It’s no easy task by any means, but if you talk about the decision beforehand, manage your expectations, and come to terms with the reality that you’ll hear each other pooping, moving with your girlfriend becomes way less daunting.
She gives you space
She doesn’t make you feel like you owe it to her to spend every waking moment with her just because the two of you are together. She respects the fact that you need your space as much as she needs hers. She acknowledges the fact that you have a life outside of the relationship and is accepting of that.
Your efforts never go unnoticed
We all express our affection very differently. Maybe because it has a lot to do with the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’re with. Keeping this in mind, you try to do things for her every now and then, even things you’re not comfortable with. She not only acknowledges every little thing you do for her but also appreciates it.
Not only do you love her, but so does your family
This part is a bit difficult and tricky. Getting your family to like her and accept her is never easy. It depends on how you present her and more importantly on how she treats your family. If she is able to win them over, for your sake, then there is no doubt about her being the one.
You Can Maintain The Friend/Girlfriend Balance
Ah yes, the friend/girlfriend balance — easily one of the hardest things a man will have to manage in his life. It’s Friday night and you’re hanging out with your girlfriend, when suddenly you get a text from your buds commanding you to come out to a nearby bar. Do you go alone, bring your girlfriend, say you can’t, ignore the text? If I had the answer to this ageless question, I wouldn’t be writing content for websites… I’d be an omnipotent being giving advice for a shit-ton of money. Maintaining the balance is up to you; we all know how amazing it is to snuggle up with your girlfriend 24/7, but neither one of you wants to be the only person in each other’s lives. If you can spend time with your friends by yourself, with her by your side, and vice-versa for her friends all equally, you’re on the right track.
You Have Awesome Sex
Whether it’s wild sex, make up sex, Christmas sex, Hanukkah sex, morning sex, afternoon sex, drunk sex, or gloriously lazy sex,you know you’re with the person you’re meant to be with when the sex is always good… even when it’s bad.
You Can Do Nothing Together (And Love It)
On the other hand, there are still those nights where neither one of you wants to have sex at all (imagine that!) and you opt out for Netflix and Chill (literally) with a glass of booze in your hands. If you don’t feel the need to fill those lovely nights with forced conversation or unnecessary hand stuff, you can consider your relationship a success. There is no such thing as time wasted when you’re spending that time with someone you love — consider turning off your phones and enjoying domestic bliss.
Things Are Still Romantic
If you have to struggle to keep things romantic, don’t let that dissuade you from thinking the girl you’re with is the girl you should end up with. I get it, the weeks are long, work is hard, and Fridays are the most tiring days ever. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable laziness, but that doesn’t mean all hope is lost. If you have to plan out a romantic evening that doesn’t naturally occur, don’t fret, because romance doesn’t die with the person who’s made for you. It may be harder and harder to make time for those little moments, but when they pop up, you’ll remember why you chose each other.It doesn’t have to be a grandiose gesture of roses and dinner and a mariachi band — in fact, it can be as something as small as telling her she looks pretty. If you’ve got that, you’ve got everything.
You See A Future With Her
It’s actually quite startling how many couples refrain from talking about the future out of fear. Call me crazy, but I think it’s because so few couples out there actually see themselves with the person they’re with for a long period of time. The relationship-out-of-necessity, or “settling” is a huge problem that will trap innocent loving people in a commitment they don’t want. They spend thousands of dollars on a wedding and a honeymoon to find out, a few years later, that they were never really that into it. If you close your eyes and think about your life and she’s in every daydream you have, then you’re on the right track. If she feels the same way and you’ve talked about this with each other, you’re on the double-right track. If neither one of you can see a long-term future with each other, it’s time to move on.
You’re Completely Yourself Around Her
Don’t hide your personality or pretend to be something you’re not — that’s what first dates are for. When you’re with the one, you start to think of them as an extension of yourself. You can fully be your own person around them and they can do the same with you. If you find yourself censoring your words or thoughts and simply don’t feel comfortable around them, then take that all into consideration. If you’re in it for the long haul and feel like you have to lock yourself in your bedroom every hour, you might be doing something wrong. Finding the one you love is about finding someone who will love and accept you for who you are. You’ll grow together, change together, and just be together without any reservations.
You have her unconditional support
When you look back at the things you’ve been through in your life while in a relationship with her, you cannot think of a single incident in which she hasn’t supported you in any way or hasn’t helped you get past it. Even when you were about to give up, she was the one pushing you. She has been your strength all along. She believes in you, even when you fail to believe in yourself.
You think she is perfect!
There isn’t a thing you’d want to change about her, even the things she thinks are imperfections. The way she smiles, the way she talks, how she holds you and how she blushes when you compliment her, every little thing about her spells out perfect for you.
You see her in your future
When you talk about your future, you talk about the two of you being together. You can’t imagine any scenario without her being present in it. You even make plans with her. She’s the one you want to share everything with, now and in the foreseeable future.
She compromises
There are times when a person is not at their best and they fail to do things the way they normally would. When you’re going through such a period and fall short of being a good partner, instead of complaining she proves to be understanding of your situation. She doesn’t make you feel bad about it, rather helps you in whatever ways she can.