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“Sєx Before Marriage Is OK As Long As It’s Mutually Pleasurable”- Female Pastor Says

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A pastor has authored a book which says it’s okay for singles to indulge in sєx before marriage, Christian or not.

Having sєx outside marriage even though accepted by society, is frowned upon by christians. An author, Bromleigh McCleneghan, has attempted to explain why it may be okay to actually indulge in ‘guilt-free’ sєx even as a single christian who doesn’t conform to the world (okay na).

According to her, it’s okay to have sєx along as it’s “mutually pleasurable and affirming“. She also said it’s not by force to stay off sєx, especially if you became single by circumstance.

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The married mother of three who is also an associate pastor at the Union Church of Hinsdale in Chicago, USA, said it’s also great to be faithful to your sєxual partner, even if you are both unmarried.

Here’s what she said below:

“If we refrain from having sєx that isn’t mutually pleasurable and affirming, that doesn’t respect the sacred worth of ourselves and our partners…Chastity, or just sєx, requires that whether we are married or unmarried, our sєx lives restrain our egos, restrain our desire for physical pleasure when pursuing it would bring harm to self or other.”

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  1. Most people who posted messages need to be reminded that aglican church was formed by a man for this very reason… so that he could get rid of one woman in order to sleep with another.. The Pope wouldn’t allow it so Henry the IIIV said ok I will break away and form the Anglican church..

  2. Omobabe Iyobosa Esyobom

    Where in the Bible did she read that. This is rubbish and hope people don’t listen to her.

  3. Ramesh Kumar Chhetri

    Nonsense saying , how possible get sex before marriage

  4. Ramesh Kumar Chhetri

    Nonsense saying , how possible get sex before marriage

  5. Ndimele Chuks David

    That is how other men will test all your sisters and your daughters over and over. And if they didn’t satisfy the men, they will get dumped. Its not a curse sir, but it’s your wish and desire. What goes around, comes around!

  6. Ndimele Chuks David

    That is how other men will test all your sisters and your daughters over and over. And if they didn’t satisfy the men, they will get dumped. Its not a curse sir, but it’s your wish and desire. What goes around, comes around!

  7. No, no,, no,,,

  8. No, no,, no,,,

  9. Lol… Pray after the act. Thus one got me laughing

  10. Lol… Pray after the act. Thus one got me laughing

  11. Lilian Chi Ireigwe

    The guy thinks he is wiser than God… I Pray u don’t end up marrying a girl who will sleep with ur entire community for sexual pleasure/gratification.

  12. Lilian Chi Ireigwe

    The guy thinks he is wiser than God… I Pray u don’t end up marrying a girl who will sleep with ur entire community for sexual pleasure/gratification.

  13. Juliet Jonathan Ifechelobi

    We are in end time

  14. Juliet Jonathan Ifechelobi

    We are in end time

  15. pastor may God punish u for speaking deceit

  16. pastor may God punish u for speaking deceit

  17. Anti-christ pastor. pastor of doom.

  18. Anti-christ pastor. pastor of doom.

  19. Emmanuel Agbator

    Don’t be deceived not all that claim to pastors truly are

  20. Charles Chukwuma Odoh

    “female pastor” get it right… Let her… You meant.

  21. Charles Chukwuma Odoh

    We all wake up to something new… Wow!

  22. Let’s get something clear here,formication is not the only punishable sin,so further check yourself.

  23. Nehwon Nadia Diama

    Thank u uncle book man

  24. Evelyn Kobusingye

    Don’t do Wat I do but wat I say

  25. In our Islam it’s also sin.

  26. Emmanuel Agbator

    Lol pray after

  27. Shocker DeepSky u re just a waste product from your generation. The only word U can’t spell in your life is just idiot. Your father! Prodigal son of a use nincompoop. Go and call your mother idiot. Bombobloodclaat Babylon

  28. Emmanuel Agbator

    God will surely judge all sin especially intentional sins

  29. By their fruits , you shall know them . What a satanic pastor !!! encouraging fornication

  30. Dnt be misled …dats all i cn say

  31. But most of christian pregnat woman before marrie her

  32. Wow this is sad coming from a pastor.

  33. End time is really approaching if a pastor can support this

  34. All? Don’t speak for everyone.

  35. Onyeka Gift Ijeh

    Esther Olabisi ok, but check yourself first

  36. Faisal its not only Christians but also Moslems meaning people make that mistake of getting pregnant before marriage

  37. Also the guy knew he had aproblem why didn’t treat himself before…I think also the man should repent hahaha

  38. I wonder which part of the bible he find that?
    I can imagine what plaster is up to I pity her.

  39. Patricia Mwikali

    Which verse from the bible

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  41. Another false report

  42. What of the other 20%. Oh! You will still use that one to cheat after all the testing u already did before marriage. Oga, you are a fool ( In Mr Ibu’s voice)

  43. Lasur Moses Lasur

    Beware of false prophet!

  44. You can lie oh! She left him after 2 months and then u claimed cos of erection problem and cos she couldnt conceive, how do u expect her to conceive in 2 months? My friend shut up your mouth ( In Mr Ibu’s voice)
    You are just a pretender – Keep your dirty opinion to yourself dont spoil good girls with ur profane and dirty comment

  45. What happens if the man runs away after having sex with the lady?

  46. Kemisola Joy Abolaji

    if u dont stop testing i will ar sure u, U will still test mummywater

  47. Titilola Awoliyi

    The Holy Bible is a divine manual given to us to guide our path in life little wonder Psalm 32:8 reassure and reiterate God’s divine guidance.
    Even if the world is turning upside down, let us not forget quickly that the word of God was written by the inspiration of God through anointed men of God… I can’t make a confused man/ woman my role model or mentor which is why 1st John 4:1 states that we should test all spirits whether they are of God because many false prophets are gone out into the world.
    Marriage is honourable with the bed undefiled…as it is written in the Holy manual so if there is any contradiction with God’s word, then the repercussions will be grievous.
    The end time is really here.

  48. Owoyemi Ogunsona

    Lmaoooo… Nwetu Chinyere u don’t need to test soft drink/tin tomatoes since u have NAFDAC to do that 4u.
    Lilian Chi Ireigwe… Amen to dat but mind u not all Ladies datz good in bed is a slot.
    Ndimele Chuks David u r taking it personal n i didn’t say i have tested ur sister oooo.
    Chloë Dixon…men cheat 4 2 Major reasons
    1. Cos his woman isn’t good enough in bed
    2. Cos it’s just another girl.
    If i get a woman that’s good in bed den 2nd reason can be handled soon.
    Nana Kofi Aboagyeii… No lies i once had a friend that told me she can’t marry who her parents want her to marry cos after 1mins d man is done n until d next that b4 he can get hard again.
    Joan Ezikome Osemeke…thats the problem whit Nigerian we r too spiritual whats does holy spirit have to do whit sex

  49. Owoyemi Ogunsona

    And i am sure u will all crucify any lady that supports me n that’s why no lady has said anything instead dey just Liked my comments.

  50. one day we all got to say we had sex before marriage

  51. Is she a God to change or who she’s saving

  52. dele pls read my comment very well, i never said she tried to conceive, i bliv what the bible says, but lets try to be real atimes, how will u feel marrying a woman who doesn’ t lyk kiss, fingering, foreplay, a stereotype sex lady and above all doesn’t go beyong 50 secs don’ t know about you, but i bliv sex is a big platform thaf brings couples rilly close, and good sex brings them even more closer and makes the marriage enjoyable , i

  53. Hahahaaha! Some comments…If she is good in bed!

  54. Petrenia Raymond

    Do not add are take off to the words of God

  55. Adedayo Emmanuel

    Mary Inyang which means u can have sex before marriage den bcox dix ur comment confirmed it,let me tell u dat ur so call friend is nt a wife material at all if she can leave her husband three mouth after marriage an she can’t even endure ,d gud news is dix,just watch u will see dat is dat ur friend dat will loss nt d man

  56. Adedayo Emmanuel

    Hmmm nawa oooo,I believe sex before marriage is adultery ooo

  57. Joice Guni Rwaringesu

    Pastor?????????? Female pastor??????????

  58. Its wrong that fornication,,,, if you comit it you will not inherit his kingdom,,,,God’s kingdom

  59. Ok everyone shhhhhhU0001f64a. Now, raise your hand up if you know you have not had sex before marriage?
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  60. Haaa all this pastors na waooo God will judge them for misleading people

  61. Banks Ozone Alusiego

    Having sex with my woman before marriage should be my own business and not public business or opinion.Is an agreement between two heart that loves and cares for each other.For me,is between me and my future wife alone and not people to decide…Nit having sex,does that stop fornication??? Am off for my daily achievements…

  62. Austincruz Enemchukwu

    Pentecostals have destroyed Christianity, their talks and actions makes me feel ashamed

  63. Chiori Rosemary Ojiugo

    Hmmmm @Ade…wat do u mean by wife material. Well, d candid fact here is dat most of u commenting here and condemning d lady’s opinion are big time pretenders. We all know dat nowadays, u hardly get a man dat wud stick to d rule of ‘ antipremarital sex’ of a thing. Better be realistic instead of being fictitious.
    And who even told u, Ade dat d lady wud loose?
    Just better b realistic. I believe God didn’t give d man erection wahala at his birth… some untreated bacteria must hv caused dat and why didn’t he settle dat before deceiving d lady into marriage ?
    She wud certainly get d best!

  64. Shammah Nnadigwe

    Open the door I want to show u something

  65. Ehh, abeg come make I do small na, spiritual conje de hungry me here mis pastor.

  66. you agree or disagree,she has said what is truth.

  67. Sonnen Jerome Tarungwa

    Some of you are just making useless noise. If she says that or not,go guys do that even dangerously behind close doors. You are just talking bible here yet you do worse

  68. Hahahahah….divine ND given to u by who?

  69. Too many brain…. People here!

  70. Zainab Abdulrahman

    Guys having sex b4 Marriage is bad bcos u didn’t no weather he wll be ur husband or not. if u lose ur virginity u will never get it again. so keep ur virginity for only d man dat pay ur bride price. don’t be like a goat dat Hv sex wit many he goat

  71. Zainab Abdulrahman

    just be ur self and u will get more respect frm ur husband

  72. Zainab Abdulrahman

    just be ur self and u will get more respect frm ur husband

  73. Zainab Abdulrahman

    just be ur self and u will get more respect frm ur husband

  74. Zainab Abdulrahman

    just be ur self and u will get more respect frm ur husband

  75. Adesola Jolaoluwa

    U said it all Onyeka Gift Ijeh

  76. Dont you see all the ladies commentingU0001f615

  77. Onyeka Gift Ijeh

    Adesola Jolaoluwa thank you

  78. Mary you are not talking like a woman ah ah..this is something i’d expect some immature guy to say,am disappointed..so is that how you’d do it,get married to someone based on how good they are in bed..nxnxnx this is too sad..Goodluck with that

  79. I like dis religion….do anyhw ….someone somewhere i never met paid the price already ….so keep on rocking

  80. Adedayo Emmanuel

    Marry wake up am sure u are nt a baby anymore deris something “roomwar” dat is der own war to face in dat marriage so d lady is not supposed opt out BT help d man to find solution, an as for myself is bcox u dnt no me datz y u are saying all u saying now but I will bodily tell u if I say I love u or I want to marry u dat meanz ur problem are also mine

  81. I dont find any hypocrisy..people just expected better from her since she’s a pastor..and how can one condone such from a so called pastor,her teaching is wrong she should be bringing more light to people not misleading so i understand why people are commenting the way they are,they did not say they’ve never done it..there’s actually something called repentence so you cant say they are being hypocrites

  82. Pauline Buumba Okenyi

    One pastor normally say that it is OK to eat in your dreams that it is even written that God will set a table for us in the presence of our enemies..”phew!”

  83. Yes i now clearly see that the end times have come. Sex outside marriage is good to u ehhh mami pastor? The devil is still saying something. Wolves in sheep clothing. The foundation of the Lord almighty stands sure with this inscription that they that nameth the name of the Lord should depart from iniquity ( sexual immorality included )

  84. While we look up to Christ for the remission of our sins we still stand against those propagating falsehood in the name of Christ. She has scored high in sin in saying this than the sin itself

  85. Justice Williams Quashie

    The judgement is of the lord not us Mike Godwins

  86. Judith Shalom Micheal

    are you reading God’s bible or devil book wich1 is that . dontnbe mislead by this so called pastors they serve devil not Jesus our savior

  87. Praise Alice Alice

    Sex before marriage is cool

  88. Justice Williams Quashie

    Remember that adulterous woman, the multitude and Jesus’ incident in the bible. Let he that has no sin cast the first stone. And what happened? Everyone left leaving Jesus and the woman. In fact no single person was able to condemn the woman to death as was expected. We as a people don’t deserve the right to judge anybody regardless of magnitude of the persons sins.

  89. Owoyemi Ogunsona all I can tell u Is that read ur bible cover to cover…and do wat the bible teaches u

  90. Chika Okpara I agree wit u yes people onthe bibles did commit some horrible sins””but wat we fails to understand is God never lieve this people unpunished remember wen David comited adultery wat happen to him after did God let him go free No he rebukes him and punished him””same to us if ur born again child of God and ur living in sin God will not bless u…. he will punish u in this life but if u die u will go to heaven because he promised never to forsake us”it is good to value wat Christ did to us by cleening up our life and lives for him not like the world ..

  91. Atamuno Atams and how did he end up did the lord rebuke him and judged him accordingly”go ahead and hv sex with someone ur not married to……if ur a born again child of God of he will chastise u and if ur not…..ur end is to destruction everlasting punishment HELL FIRE

  92. the wise king is heaven yes because salvation is of the lord lest anyman should bost”””but let me refresh ur memory because of Solomon’s sins the kingdom was divided and his son did not reign over all Israel he only reign over one tribe and that was the judgements of God.

  93. In end times like this am not surprised to hear this kind of message

  94. Ik Chongo ur right

  95. End time pastors, if u still in doubt of d endtime go back to Mat. 24 and evrything will be clear to u.

  96. Osas Marv Ikhihibhojere

    Lol, 95% of christians and muslims are regular fornicators, so what’s the arguement about?

  97. Titilola Awoliyi I agree wit u

  98. Anaekwe Augusta we are not judging dear is in the Bible

  99. CarmaAdlam that is wat will help God’s people….let me repeat to them people read ur Bible to show ur self……
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  100. Queen Ayanfe-Oladeji

    Atamuno Atams, before Jesus Christ came, there was a method of punishment for anyone who commit sin. Since Jesus came to the world and has preached the gospel of God, that method changed completely. In the old testament where u have such king, blood of animal can easily be use for sacrifices of sin but now nothing like that. That’s why u can’t compare urself with that king u re referring to. The Bible says in Mat 11:12 “And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force”. The journey to heaven is not comparative at all, its no dull moment, its about trying all ur best to make it bcos nothing in this earth worth going to hell fire for. I am not perfect but I’m trying all my best preparing for His kingdom. May God help us ooo.

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