I’m a single woman in my 30’s and my problem is that I cannot find a man and I honestly have no idea why. I’mattractive and all my friends say I’m a nice
person. I’m aware that you can meet a man at any time, not just when you’re out socially on Saturday nights, so I never step out of the house looking anything less than perfect. I keep to my trim figure, dress nicely, well-groomed and, because I was aware I was being too choosy, I’ve tried hard to give men I don’t even fancy a chance. But now men just don’t seem to find me attractive at all. I don’t get chatted up though I make sure that I look friendly and approachable when l’m out. l’m at my wits’ end and honestly don’t know what else to do. Philo, by e-mail
Dear Philo,
Your whole being seems to be devoted to finding this person, who, I suspected, you feel will complete you. You’re not just eager to meet someone, it has become an obsession.
The problem with being so fanatical about something is that it makes you come across as a bit neurotic. Men spot desperate women a mile off and the sensible, nice ones, make a run for it realising you want a life-jacket, not a boyfriend. The not so nice men single you out, figuring you’re a great candidate for someone they can treat badly, knowing you’ll put up with it because you’ll do anything not to be alone. You don’t sound like you are at that stage yet, but you’re not far of! You need to stop looking and turn all this energy inward.
Throw yourself into enjoying your career, enjoy your friends rather than using them as emotional crutches, read books, see movies you like, go to the gym, make new friends and find new things to enjoy. Also stop looking so perfect. Nails always polished, not a hair out of place could put people of! You sound like the girl who turns up at a barbecue in killer-heels and your little black dress when everyone else is in casuals, just in case there might be a single man present. This is termed ‘the single girl look’ and it’s often unattractive. For a change, aim for the just got out of bed look.’
This is bound to attract more men as they see a woman who looks perfect, and not think ‘high maintenance’ or ‘she must be desperate for a man’. If you really want to get a man, leave your hair all messy, pull on your oldest pair of your favourite jeans, add a pair of casual slippers and a vest, but make sure your bra is showing. Put on the barest minimum of make-up and a mysterious smile that says ‘who cares in meet a man? I’m here to have fun!’ and see what happens. Then sit back and enjoy all the attention that is bound to come your way.
Tell her to inbox me
mayb bcos ur breast and butus are flat like a burst tyre..bcos men love ladies that carry front and back
U will soon be diminished too.###watchout###
Is this some kind of a joke?
U still dey hot Abi??
Because u aren’t a “loaf of bread “my dear.
Hmmm u little thieve lol
Hmm little thieve
I still don’t understand why people disturb their life over things that will naturally come when it’s due. You must not marry at 30, why are you killing yourself, stop looking for a husband, the Bible said he that find’s a wife and not she that find’s a husband, you are supposed to be enjoying your now, and also be preparing your self for when the marriage come, Jesus, cos when it comes, believe me, you don’t have a life anymore, and how many years do we have to leave on earth for you to punish your self with unnecessary worries,go out and date, for dating sake, the marriage will naturally come
Is because you were rejecting them.
hahahaha bad market, you been da chup men money since forget say old age da come, now you expect make men leave younger ladies go marry you wa want reach menopause, onya clap for yourself.
hahahaha bad market, you been da chup men money since forget say old age da come, now you expect make men leave younger ladies go marry you wa want reach menopause, onya clap for yourself.
You need deliverance.please go to Mfm ajangbadi branch.
Cos akomi tipoju and u are too old and u take dem 4 a fool sorry love
Your time is off, thank God for the men we never old at 70s
Is only in some parts of Africa that ladies are waiting for men to talk to them, developed countries like Australia, China and many more don’t wait for men to talk to them radar they invite men for a dinner in other to express their feelings. Thank you
Toasting you? R u a slice of bread. ?
You need Jesus sis
coz u would not be a good mom in future,change ur ways of life.
More naija girls will suffer dry seasons of men in the future bcz of 2 reasons, #1 the young vibrants guys are running out of the country for a better life, #2 after long experience of true love relationships outside the country, then coming back to meet the local girls who only fall in love with your car and other material things eyes can see is really Ridiclous and doesn’t worth all the stress you have been true on the street, it’s too early to cry now bcz many of you naija girls are too selfish, bad characters, always transferring all your problems to a new relationship, you have no self esteem, you can’t take care of yourself when in a relationship, you are over needy, and yet not romantic, you lack the swaggs, you are too stive, women should be softtouching but you are not, you grow fatttttt so quick bcz you are too lazy to go to gym and therefore not suitable for what the new age guys want, nobody is ready to spend the rest of his life with a fat cow. Learn from this comment or keep fighting the air.
U said ur beautiful n attractive! hmmmm! Good qualities but wot bout manners n good relationship with God? Have u ever taking a good look @ 70 years old woman with a view of reflecting how attractive they were at ur age?? My sister don’t b carried away! If u r living a good life wit ur beauty, u can’t say dat men scarce u! Change ur ways its never late. At 30 if tins were cool u should hv bn married wif kids! God will do it for u if u do it for yourself.
If men no longer toast you, toast them then.
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Go to hell bitch
υ never coмe lagoѕ . υ ѕelғ go тιre
…cos you’re not a bread….you’re a wonderful woman and not a toast bread. Put God first and every other things shall follow you
Shallow minded man looks for attractive woman, Average man looks for a talented woman while a great man seek for a woman with character. Therefore, compose yourself in obedience with the word of God and live a good character expectation then your right man will come at the appointed time no doubt about it. Real man need a woman that can positively impact in their marriage.
It’s not that serious.
It’s not that serious.
30 ur crying lol,me 50 and am used to it am gonna marry in heaven
30 ur crying lol,me 50 and am used to it am gonna marry in heaven
Marry at 20/30 divorce at 32.
Or marry at 40 till death lol
Marry at 20/30 divorce at 32.
Or marry at 40 till death lol
There are plenty of good men who would love to have you as a girlfriend.
There are plenty of good men who would love to have you as a girlfriend.
Woman all can attractive
Woman all can attractive
my frd Jesus is the answer,is da only man who wil wipe your cries, confess be4 him
my frd Jesus is the answer,is da only man who wil wipe your cries, confess be4 him
Naughty u tc
Naughty u tc
May the lord of lords Jesus Christ set you free
May be U have a serious body odour and bad character odour. Sorry!
Check your spiritual life if you’ve not exhausted your time allotted you from above wrongly
Maybe you’re once a slot
Bcos u r approaching menopause….u don tire to play hide and seek finish?? No worry there are some keke drivers looking for ur type…U0001f603
I have got nice man for u
But its the truth na.
Just call dis number for help
HAHAHAH LOL LARRY
Watch ur self very well de can of live u are living u are pretty ok dnt be border
Because when you’re a young you thought your parts is not in market those poor guys that was coming for you then you told them that they are not your type now whom to blem
U be bread?
This thing na lie ooo Mr poster be careful
Hahahah so funny not enought man? Hahahahaha.worried?my frez all gul range 30nothing to worried about men just happy n chillout
Because you make your self very cheap by exposing your nakedness to the world.
have a time with God
God don answer ur prayer na..see sharp sharp husband… Oboi
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U Dont Have Anything 2offer A Man U Dont Have A Job Or Anything 2support, Is Hard This Dayz
Your status shows you are married;;;
Dahz just a movie please….
Jx check ur self gal
Because need prayer after spending all your life dirty thing I pray God will help you
I agree, just live your life and persue your goals, real good worthwhile men notice women who are trying not to be notice,men who are looking for a flash in the bed notice women who are obviously trying to be noticed. Stay strong Black Woman… you’ve stood strong since the begining of time, GOD has a man for you, know that…
No ves buhari reign is too hard.. All men are lukin art dia puket..
…women get angry when you tell dem dia on a #timebomb…keep flexing guys..your #expiry_date is awaiting u @30
There is a spirit of rejection in you dear,what u should do is to go into your knees and pray for God will answer you.
Just be friendly.
She wan discover mugu pack
Ar u a bread?
Tell that Lady to invite me for a dinner maybe after may consider her condition
Yes well said…..
We are not concentrating on beauty along but characters.
Go for delivrance in jesus name amen
cos ur not tester
No worry make I toast u na how far do want to go out for a d
Gimme your number
Woooow….. God bless you for this words.
I guess when they approached u in ur early 20’s u shunned them….now u see how hard it is to find them at ur 30’s….I pray u find him tho. Gudluck!
Table all your problem before Allah and your problem shall be solve
Hummm uve checked my status dia,people don’t say the truth on media
Whn u hv beauty wthout brain, d PrivatePart sufferz it#RobertMugabe
Whn u hv beauty wthout brain, d PrivatePart sufferz it#RobertMugabe
When most young ladies are busy dating married men,don’t worry you can be the 5th wife
When most young ladies are busy dating married men,don’t worry you can be the 5th wife
30is still fresh na
30is still fresh na
Come I will marry you
If men refuse to toast you, try and toast them, there many way to show sign to the person you like
come to Malaysia and see ………
check ur behind dear..u hav a tail
Nawa ooo why do people take everything serious, abi the economy dey make some people dey vex already ?
Dats Sophie and her frnd in shuga
How do you present yourself in public which life do you live before?
Bring yourself down or humble yourself and you will get a man
Ur time hv expired…ur akara s now cold
Karina pls don’t do dat oh
Come for a psychology class at ma yard…I will give u d formula to get men..is dat simple
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