“My name is Paula and I am a 38-year-old woman who has seen the good, the bad and ugly side of life, especially
when it comes to relationships with men.
In my life, I must say I have not been lucky with men as they always use and dump me. I want to believe, like my friends used to tell me, that I love emotionally and invest everything I have in my relationships.
I grew up in an environment where we were taught to be generous, kind and share whatever we had with others. I imbibed this admonition and when I started having boyfriends, I tried to share everything with my men, not knowing that these would be my undoing.
Men have dealt with me in every imaginable way, with some stealing my money and running away. One man I loved with all my heart and had even had our introductions, collected over N5 million for a business venture, only to surprise me when I saw photos of his wedding to another woman in a magazine.
I always left everything to God, believing that He has a better plan for me.
Then I met Bode five years ago. When I met him, he was just a struggling young man but he showed me so much love (I now believe he was pretending all along).
I was taken in by his devotion that I did everything to make sure he was comfortable. At his age (he was 30 when we met), he was still living with his parents in a room and palour apartment.
I got a three bedroom flat for them, furnished it to taste, gave his mother money to start up a business, paid school fees for his siblings and set him up in a business.
I did all these because he had vowed to marry me and even brought his parents to meet mine and we had our introduction. While everyone was happy for me, my father was sceptical and told me to be very careful, but I assured him that Bode is quite different from the rest.
The first sign of trouble was when, after almost five years, he never mentioned anything about solemnizing our union, even though we were living together in my house.
One day, I broached the topic and told him I would like to get pregnant so that it would speed up things. But his reaction should have warned me.
He told me he was not in a hurry and that we should not think of a baby yet. When I prodded further, he told me his parents rae not very comfortable with him getting married to me, seeing that I am not that young.
I was hurt and angry at him but I hid my disappointment. But it finally hit me when his youngest sister who was very close to me, came to me to tell me that their parents had concluded plans for Bode to get married to a much younger girl from their home town.
I was shocked but I hid it very well till he came back home and when I confronted him, he sheepishly said that there was nothing he could do as his parents had already taken the decision and he was just waiting for the right time to break the news to me.
At the moment, I am terribly broken. Some of my friends have told me to make sure he suffers for this betrayal while others say I should leave vengeance to God. But what should I do?
Paula.”
On Yoruba fiance right? Y not igbo or Hausa stupid post frm useless bloggers
That’s yoruba for you but you get big boob I mean big backside yoruba like it very well
all they sabi is red oil soup.
So u not know say u old abi
clap for yourself……………. anyone that trust a yoruba person is a fool..
You’re beautiful, you will see another man good luck
This is sad… But nemesis they say would catch up with such people. It is painful, the Bible says in Gal.6:7 “Be not deceived; GOD is not mocked, whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.” Leave vengeance to GOD, PLEASE continue in your goodness, don’t ever stop. GOD will reward you greatly soon Paula.
U are very stupid for that ur comment,omo aja
Yawn… All this page does is insult Yoruba people.
Mugu e be same business now ah ah!
Are u better than Yoruba ppl?a born criminal from criminals family
It happen in all tribes, u can spend all your life savings on a guy from your village and he will still dump you, heartbroken is not peculiar to a particular tribe, grow up.
NA who send you make you spend the money? Yeye dey smellU0001f60fU0001f60fU0001f60f when you twist tradition, wahala must follow, the gods are wise, nest time let your man do the spending. Except he is your husband.
Their father U0001f62cU0001f608!!!!
you are too old for him but you are too young for some guys out there,but you should’ve seen the handwriting on the wall
Girl saving money to get a man, what the embarrass world that we live.
My Yoruba friends will say u re MAD…. Na so dem dey behave. OYA swear Bode sef no spend moni on you. Sorry for heart break sha. BODE u no try oo to break her heart. But make she no tell me say BODE no spend Dine on her. #Mymouthshoutup
Not only that , after weakening your pistol and rings bearing even change your camshaft is not fear sha ..
They will say… Gbenu so ohun!
Zinus i know you are fool you don’t need to prove me right with you stupid comment ..
If she is ur sister how will you feel
Never give any man you money many people are just opportunists
I think its high time we considered football age in dis relationship thing.lol..but if there’s love,there no need for all that..my dear,move on,put the past behind u..Bode and his family are probably just gold diggers
Isn’t the end of the world sis best of luck lol.
Come to me and spend nothing and be my wife and we can grow together
Pls don’t mind dem u are still young ok ,just go God have is own ways of doing tins ur bless my dear
Grow up together with u bokoharam chaii
how true. is d story?
but that’s a fact. well, pls GMNigeria….mind your captions. You are too biased. Stop being tribalistic in your subject headings abeg.
Paul oooooh u are mad you said you are prophet of God I dont think for that your stupid post… Omo ale
Even ur dressin now is enoff reason for his parents to say so
U can start spending on me now,my mum won’t intrude
Y r u bringing God into this? How does d bible quote com in? What I know is that bible say a man WL leave his father n mother n cleave to his wife,not d oda way,its high time we grew up,all d ladies that propose to a man n start bearing his name before he even shows them to his family, sorry. I feel its a mere friendship so don’t feel disappointed when it goes sour cos no one appointed u in d first place
Y r u bringing God into this? How does d bible quote com in? What I know is that bible say a man WL leave his father n mother n cleave to his wife,not d oda way,its high time we grew up,all d ladies that propose to a man n start bearing his name before he even shows them to his family, sorry. I feel its a mere friendship so don’t feel disappointed when it goes sour cos no one appointed u in d first place
Paul, I don’t need to say anything about u again, u are already cursed beyond…
read my comment well
He said so not d parents cos if he didn’t agree with them they can’t do nothing don’t mind him ok
Sorry .style up az wiz
Hw old is he? N if its true ur older Dan DAT guy just take it easy .died deal bambi
You date a man for good 10 years? Girl you didn’t trying for yourself at all, not to talk of given him all your money. Mtweech I just put the blame on you
This is just a stupid posts,wat is deferent btw igbo and Hausa and Yoruba,dear sis,forget abt dat issue wat dat Yoruba guy parent did an igbo or Hausa can do worst
We ve seen many we an African.
Nice Clinton Chimah well said
Adlynz Charles you should read the story not the headlines to draw your conclusion. I read the story and that is where I deduced from, GOD came because He created each and everyone of us and knows how best to pay man for man’s inhumanity against man. I quote a verse of the Bible I best feel suits her situation and also to encourage her.
Don’t worry urself
Spending your money on a guy is the most dumbest thing you ve ever done. Is he a cripple? Can’t he work and do the spending?
But is that true ?
You are beautiful, you will find a good man. Just stop spending money on men……..please……..it has never worked before for you, it won’t work in the future.
Am avible forget abt him let’s get in love
Wetin dey pain me pass for dis life be say ,, woman go see better man she go dey under-estimate am,,
Na yeye person like BODE dem like pass
what a life !!
Wise up nah its call a lesson
Leave yuor country the world is full of great men !
Okay naaa kpele pls accept my sympathy lolz
You are an idiot,are you wiser than king solomon in his book that advises a man or a woman to look for his/her life partner amongst his/her kindred?
ALTHOUGH YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL,GOD WILL PROVIDE ANOTHER ONE FOR YOU,BUT DRESS PROPERLY.
You were using Ur finances to lure them if not why would you give a man N5m? Are you a microfinance bank? Pray so that God will open your subconsciousness to realize that love is a natural gift.
Save more 4 d next guy bcos d economy is getting worst
Eeya so sorry dear take heart
Yeah u wl 5n a man but sweetheart u dnt need to spend money for a man,any man dat is after your money dozen”nt love you at all mark my words
Story for the gods…. you be linda ikeji abi?
Manage the situation
Sorry dear, but please don’t spend money for man again.
Learn not invest I someone money inform of love. Me not even my single cent. Laaa
Sorry look for another one.
Hhhhmmm, n your money was not too old for their son
Tell the parents they are too old to decide for him too..lol
Look for your age then
Stop spending your money on them, must men are looking for a women who can take care of them, When the right one come you will know it will happen just be patient God will never leave you nor for sake you. Put every thing in prays
Some of you here have done worst than she has , my dear when it come to love and relationship , many people will give their all to make it work, should i ask a question to the ladies ? how about we men stop spending money on u as well … i believe that what will work will work , weda u spend billions or spent nothing , some women are worst than that man on the story , lets be frank .. my dear i will advice u , keep on trying and hopefully one day someone who will appreciate u will be there for u .
How could this bundle of joy be too old for anyone pls parents are better beware of the wickedness they are inflicting on people’s daughters knowing that they have daughters too.
true relationship is never based on age , color , distance or language… only people with weak heart that wants imperfection whn they are not even near to it , i have seen wonderful relationship with big age difference and it still work great .
Why won’t dey say so… U r desperate in fact even Desperado no desperate reach u… U clearly tell us that u r a husband buyer not a husband lover… U think ur monetary influence will guarantee u a husband… U r definitely deceiving not only urself but ur generation yet unborn… It is not bad lending a helping hand in a relationship but when it is too much, it makes guys lazy in terms of hustling to fair for u… U did dis to urself my dear… Please, bounce out of our Facebook jor…
Must you mention the tribe?
You don’t know Yoruba people yet
Typical Nigerian girl response.
You try well well
U no get shi shi
Point of correction in Igbo land is abomination to marry Huasa,we don’t inter marry with Yoruba too because marriage between Yoruba and Igbo can never work we don’t share the same values better to marry our tribe Biko we are not one Nigeria…
This is super story…… Produced by Wale Adenuga
Stop being a sugar mummy n find a responsible man
your man sef no sabi beta thing.still dumped you with this ur front.
Don’t worry ur sef. Leave d guy alone i tell u d guy will nt enjoy dat girl. Don’t b keen about men cos u make some mistake u wer nt suppose 2 av made. Leave a normal live like a young girl ur real guy will cm 2 u. Mind u guys like girls who give dem problem nd downplay dem. Goodluck
sorry wai, lesson us us all
Good for u
You will be compensated with another to love you
Aiseosa Merry read this
Na ur own problem
Dose pple wicked o! Afta dia son son chop ur money, chop ur body join, na now dem come rememba say u old. No mind dem.
Your dressing alone is enough to say no. Who are you showing all those things on your chest?
That’s the problem if he loves you he will exit the door with you and tell them bye bye because they were not there when you both were passing through pains
Uche u getin it wrong ,are u tellin me that u ve never see a yoruba guy marry to ibo lady and they are livin happily up to today stop bin tribalistic,yoruba,ibo,hausa are lovin pple,if i tell u my experience with other tribe u won’t believe that i ll still work wit them,if u ve this believe u won’t move forward
DAT IS NAIJA
With this kind of boobs even u snr me with 10yrs i will marry u
Why did u spend your money sorry not me he not even your husband!!!!! Why husband or son or grandson or dad are the only ppl i will spend my money! Even my husband i will not spend too much he should spend more on me……….