Must you Marry?
For the past few days, pastor Adeboye’s advice to youths on marriage have been trending all over the place. I suspect that the good pastors yarns tells me that he is a man suspended in time, between old and new school. Don’t get it twisted, in as much as I flow with his definition of a good woman, from his statement I see that the obvious way to his heart is through his stomach and of cause through prayers. Good, No wahala.
However our amiable pastor rubs it in when he starts to yarn Akpata, ” Marry a warrior, if a girl cannot pray for one hour, don’t marry her. Don’t marry a girl who is lazy, who cannot cook. She needs to know how to do chores and cook because you cannot afford to eat out at all times” Hummm na wa! Really? Seriously?
So if my wife to be can’t rant, chant, shout and generally carry on as a prayer warrior, praying for a whole hour, the woman doesn’t deserve a wife status. Abi?
Oga pastor, that one na missyarn. Over praying does not make one a better husband or wife, because the world especially Naija is filled with Fake people and “Fakest” pastors. Does a man having a job guarantee that he will make a good husband? Does a woman knowing how to cook guarantee she will make a good wife? Haba.
Ok I get it, The Nigerian god has an ear infection, so we must shout and pray for hours because that’s the only way he may listen to our prayers, right? I know that a man is suppose to marry a helper and not a cook or a house girl. By the way, is anything wrong with encouraging your young male congregation to learn how to cook and do chores too.
“Do not marry a worldly lady” what the heck does that mean? Is it about being materialistic or just being fashionable, looking nice. I guess in your book we can’t be a good Christian if we got swagg and we are trendy. Judge not pastor. We must all not look like Deeper Life people to have a personal relationship with God. By the way, if you want to start writing your own commandment you may as well write your own version of the bible for your congregation. Na una way.
Being married should never define a man or a woman. Marriage in a few years anyways, will be out of fashion. Being married is only nice if we are lucky to pick a partner who will be our friend, if not, that maybe hell on earth. All of us must not get married if our threshold for nonsense and garbage is low. The world is obviously changing and we are no longer in the 60s. Who wants to be suffering and smiling. Most importantly marriage should not be a milestone for anyone. Yes o.
Like I always say, it will take two to tango. Marriage only works when partners are determined to make it work. It can never be a merit badge, or a status for happiness. Many of us are enslaved in our myopic mindset that makes a mess out of what should really be a good friendship. So Oga pastor Adeboye, watch your yarns because a lot of people lookup to you, Biko. I don talk my own.
Marry a women that can work 14 hrs days , change a flat tire, fix the house, then hand over her paycheck.
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On point God bless you
Those saying that Adeboye was speaking to his members only and not to him should also know that Charly boy was speaking to him fans not RCCG members.
Good for you!!keep it on going sir
Pastor Adeboye was not addressing everybody but to his children .
When real men are talking junkies will as well come out. So charlie boy na some pple rile model? Pls copy his life style and see where it leads you
COOK OR NOT…..The unique and essential qualities of an african woman should not be lost to westernization…..That’s all.
Wot does he know………wen great men are talking u keep quiet
Oh Charley Boy, shut up
Hope the man won’t complaining while doing the cooking for the rest of his life? Both men and women should learn hw to cook.
As much as I do not love everything about Adeboye, I will stand by the, what he said there was good, its not like Prophecy “””THOUGHT SAYS THE LORD””” it is an advice in form of preaching, it’s up to you to accept it or not, after all he also said””””women should not marry a man without a JOB”” so why are you guys taking sides, Charley Boy, I know you just newly repented, so you should study your Bible very. Come to think of it, if paying bills, providing for the whole family and also cooking is man’s work, what else do women does?
Who is a boy when a man of of God has spoken? Not just a man, But a man of God. Make Charlie go kill himself joor!
I even heard he was addressing children/youths born to senior pastors within his church. Really don’t understand why it should raise this much dust
oh! ur father was the one cooking for ur mother n u kids ryt? see this old fool fa! the man of God has said something very important instead of pple to encourage ladies to identify their responsibility as wives and mothers, lazy n mumu pple are complainin, saying nonsense, even the whites women cook for their husbands. yeye!
Well I can cook I belive that ritual of women in the kitchen is very well right to be reduce ….a wife most knw how to cook its very right but in today modern life special in western world where women work much as men a little help from husband wont make him less than a men all can be done with love ….meaning we should not enslave our men. Doing things with respect and love goes in good way 🙂
U are not serious
If he wat to talk why can’t he go to is house and talk. Pastor dat don’t make sense .u can’t wat to do bcos u are not how God
U can’t teach us wat to do pastor.
It is a surprise that this issue is still on the front burner of discuss on social media… Why should a grown woman who is seeking to be a wife and a mother not know how to cook? This feminist ideology of equality btw the man and the woman is being taken too far. If as a mother u can’t cook who do u expect to cook for ur Kids? Ur husband or a maid? Supposing the husband can’t cook and the maid u seek did not learn to cook like u. Imagine a situation where u can’t cook bcos u feel u are a career woman and ur husband is equally a career person or one big business man (bcos career women hardly dey marry man when nor get money or a good business), then u get pregnant and then u put to bed u need to be taken care of but ur own mother and ur mother in law do not know how to cook. Do u expect ur husband who knows how to cook to leave his job to come nurse u? Even when he happen to have taken a month’s leave to do that u find a situation where he needs to go back to work as soon as the leave is over. Who then takes care of u at this point seeing u know not how to cook? Do not forget that the other kids are there needing to be cared for and fed with a good meal. Argue as much as u can on this issue the truth remains that every young lady seeking to get married should learn to cook. As for Pastor Adeboye’s advice it is just the hard truth that most so call feminist like Kemi Oluloyo and sympathizers of feminist cannot swallow without throwing tantrums like kids. When we get to the part of prayer which is he mentioned it is also very true. How often are u quick to say behind every successful man there is always a woman. Do u think it is bcos of the wife’s financial or morale support that the man becomes successful? Not at all it is bcos the mother of that man has spent countless hours in the place of prayer for the child and when the son gets married he very likely got married to a woman whose life of prayer complements that of the mother who had burnt the midnight oil praying for this man to be successful. Life is already hard enough with all the problems we are faced with daily. Psychologically and Spiritually we are besieged by forces. Imagine the kind of children birthed and raised by a mother who can’t cook and cannot pray too. No man will want such a family. This message was simply a wake-up call to ladies who are mostly the ones running to men of God for prayers on marital blessings before and during marriage to put a lot right in themselves to attract the kind of men they seek and groom the kind of homes they want. There is therefore no reason for all these many talk about this issue. The man of God quite on point when he made that statement.
& who says cooking is slavery
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Peter Okoye Peter thanks for the correction but it was just a mere auto correct on my phone and yes a man can cook too for his family but it should be a woman’s job to take care of her family.
The past was only speaking to his naive followers not me
The past was only speaking to his naive followers not me
So many stupid so clld cellebs in dis country, charlie is an idiot,dis is a foolish ting 2 say n of course men shud knw hw 2 cook 2 help out n support d lady but africa ladies own d kitchen besides countering wat d man of God said makes him an old fool, n 4 d gurlz wu might wanna live by wat d fool said stay single 4eva. It helps!!
The man of God advices his flocks he didn’t say make a law anywhere, he said “women don’t marry a man that doesn’t work and men don’t marry a woman who doesn’t know how to cook” what is wrong with the statement? Isn’t what we grew up hearing our parents telling us, what’s the big deal? Charlygoat should shut up his smelling mouth he is the least to open his mouth about Pst Adeboye’s comments.
I agree with you
You’re great keep it up
Yes you’re right
Charlyboy is just seeking for attention
Pastor Adeboye is right in all he said concerning marriage,the man should have a means of income BEFORE getting married and the woman should be able to cook for their husbands,I have heard of house helps sleeping with their madams husband because she cooks and serve the man as if she’s the wife,i have also heard (90pcent)of the time a man goes to see his finances parents one crucial question they ask is “what do you do for a living?” Every reasonable parent would ask what a man that wants to marry their daughter does for a living,besides Pastor Adeboyes marriage and life (spiritual and material) is VERY successful,Ild rather take his advice than that of a lunatic.
old man, please keep quite, cooking, praying, working is not a criteria for marriage or where is it written in the bible that man shall marry a cook, a prayer warrior and woman shall marry who is working. that is how you people create your on bible version outside the real bible version. creating confusion everywhere and your slave members say amen. You are equally saying that if a man lost his job, his wife should divorce him and if other engagement makes a woman indispose to cook meal, the husband should divorce her. USELESS PASTORS, PLEASE TALK ABOUT ANOTHER PRIVATE JET, THIEVES IN THE HOUSE OF GOD. kudos for Mr Charles for this correction.
as far as I am concern, everybody created by God is a man and woman of God but some are robbers in the house of God and have become god unto men by telling them what God did not say.
“An appalling and horrible thing has happened in the land. the prophets give false prophecies, and the priests rule with an iron hand. Worse yet, my people like it that way! But what will you do when the end comes?”
Jeremiah 5:30-31
This is the trouble with Nigeria Christians the so called
“An appalling and horrible thing has happened in the land. The prophets prophesy lies, the priests rule by their own authority, and my people love it this way. But what will you do in the end?”
Jeremiah 5:30-31
This is the trouble with Nigeria Christians
I wonder o. people will just sit down and be waiting for a word from a man of God for them to twist otherwise. well, am not surprised, Agents of confusiondestruction @ work!
I have said it on many occasion, facebook is one of the social media that gave alot of idiots like charly boy to displayed their stupidity and madness
charly goat, or boy if ur wife and ur children no sabi cook bring them for training, he b like devil c his face
Nawa o,no wonder majority of the men think it’s their right to do anything and get away with it because “women shouldn’t play equal”. My happiness is very soon all those things will be rubbish because more women will be empowered, their eyes opened and they will do unto u as u did unto them,nonsense
Justice Williams Quashie I am not asking the pastor , I AM ASKING YOU……. nuff a Unu man love chat bout submissiveness, and have to idea what it means.. Unu twist it to suit yourselves and not as intended. So I ask you again……WEY does submissiveness means to you ? Unless you don’t know and you have your own version and not as god intended to be and mean.
If a man lives alone won’t he cook? Some Men Can Cook Better Than Their Wives And It’s Not A Crime.
I love to cook but my girl don’t allow me to cook, she said for her family is a duty of a woman to cook for her husband not husband cook for his wife is only when it warrant that the woman is not around or something tied her down before a man is allowed to cook for his wife, is it true?
Yes it’s very true, but if you willingly want to do it at least once in a while, she should pls allow you to do it. but all the same, she doesn’t want to stress her husband. @ Peter
So professional cooks are slaves?
Talking about having a job before marriage. ..still thinking. ..my dad wasn’t that office man when he mArried my golden mother and again he was handicapped. ..but love gave birth to five of us. and two of us are now millions owners. ..love understanding is marriage not job annd who cooks best anybody can help anybody. ..just like my mom knowing she ain’t marrying dangote and. Still went ahead having the five of us in mind and before I forget. ..two five hundred naira was borrowed to release me and my mother the day I was born. .I will not marry you if you Don’t love me but I can marry you if don’t know how to cook I believe I can help you learn
Nnamdi its ok give out your daughters to jobless men you hear
Sandra Mitchell
I am very much aware of what the Bible says…….obviously you cannot express what you understand it to mean ,as you are one of them who is quick to quote but have no understanding what it really means…… no need to respond further , as it would be futile.
Sandra Mitchell do I need to give my view when the scriptures are already clear?
What I have written, it is only true believers can comprehend. If you go to church every other day of the week cannot qualify you a true believe until you start practicing what the Bible teaches. So to those who felt offended should understand that its not about African men twisting things to suit themselves or been superior over women. No no no… Its a biblical obligation.
God bless you for that word