Must you Marry?
For the past few days, pastor Adeboye’s advice to youths on marriage have been trending all over the place. I suspect that the good pastors yarns tells me that he is a man suspended in time, between old and new school. Don’t get it twisted, in as much as I flow with his definition of a good woman, from his statement I see that the obvious way to his heart is through his stomach and of cause through prayers. Good, No wahala.
However our amiable pastor rubs it in when he starts to yarn Akpata, ” Marry a warrior, if a girl cannot pray for one hour, don’t marry her. Don’t marry a girl who is lazy, who cannot cook. She needs to know how to do chores and cook because you cannot afford to eat out at all times” Hummm na wa! Really? Seriously?
So if my wife to be can’t rant, chant, shout and generally carry on as a prayer warrior, praying for a whole hour, the woman doesn’t deserve a wife status. Abi?
Oga pastor, that one na missyarn. Over praying does not make one a better husband or wife, because the world especially Naija is filled with Fake people and “Fakest” pastors. Does a man having a job guarantee that he will make a good husband? Does a woman knowing how to cook guarantee she will make a good wife? Haba.
Ok I get it, The Nigerian god has an ear infection, so we must shout and pray for hours because that’s the only way he may listen to our prayers, right? I know that a man is suppose to marry a helper and not a cook or a house girl. By the way, is anything wrong with encouraging your young male congregation to learn how to cook and do chores too.
“Do not marry a worldly lady” what the heck does that mean? Is it about being materialistic or just being fashionable, looking nice. I guess in your book we can’t be a good Christian if we got swagg and we are trendy. Judge not pastor. We must all not look like Deeper Life people to have a personal relationship with God. By the way, if you want to start writing your own commandment you may as well write your own version of the bible for your congregation. Na una way.
Being married should never define a man or a woman. Marriage in a few years anyways, will be out of fashion. Being married is only nice if we are lucky to pick a partner who will be our friend, if not, that maybe hell on earth. All of us must not get married if our threshold for nonsense and garbage is low. The world is obviously changing and we are no longer in the 60s. Who wants to be suffering and smiling. Most importantly marriage should not be a milestone for anyone. Yes o.
Like I always say, it will take two to tango. Marriage only works when partners are determined to make it work. It can never be a merit badge, or a status for happiness. Many of us are enslaved in our myopic mindset that makes a mess out of what should really be a good friendship. So Oga pastor Adeboye, watch your yarns because a lot of people lookup to you, Biko. I don talk my own.
We are African not European.
is anything wrong in a man knowing how to cook.is an added quality men cook too
Charlly boy ‘s case na matter for the gods…. Isorite
Charley dey find audience I beg. Make e park well
Is there any relationship btw darkness and light?
Thanks my brother God bless u,, everything the men we say we are Africa U0001f44eU0001f3ffU0001f44eU0001f3ffplease
And most especially a man who loves and respects you, cooks and pay your bills!
Yes Men Should Know How To Cook,we Are In The 21 Century Were Women Also Partake In Keeping Up With Home Duties In Terms Of Monetary Responsibilities.IfCharlyboy Who Is In His Sixties Is Keeping Up With New Changes And Happenings In This Century,thats A Big Ups To Him! Compare To Lazy Youngmen Listening To Outdated Oldmen Who Thinks Slavery Of Women Is Love And An African Culture.
Charlyboy..your time is over… this is not Charlyboy show… OK
Who’s charlyboy to talk whn a senior man is spoken
Men cook pass women self… Check on d world top 10 best chef den tell me how many men u see dia…… So neva u open mouth n say dat… Almost every men knows how to cook but dy only likes to cook wen dy live alone n not wen dy hav woman at home unless she is pregnant…..
Days y I keep saying do not cast your pearls before swine as u got to tell ppl truth dem say u judging dem
Most of the time, I find people that’s not of the church or more humane then these pastors. Life is so expensive and hard, why should woman work, take care of the home and everyday be responsible for three meals. In the US forget about house help no such thing. You have to do it all. God forbid you don’t do it well “NIGERIA MUST HERE ABOUT THIS”
Amos 3:3…Can two walk togeda except they agree?Light n Darkness are two different things.What Chalyboy said is irrelevant.I love to cook,We shud all learn how to cook.
I think he also has started making his own bible, since they have removed mark 10 21 from it , to justify having a luxary private jet, even many civilized countries presidents and pope fly comercial , basic african slave metality,
This time na black tape the mad man use tie himself?…
Rachael Lydia Eeeh soma apa wachana na hyo status yako U0001f602U0001f602
Hahahahahahaha which slavery now?
A woman must cook for his husband
He is right Knowing how to cook is not a guarantee to a successful Marriage
Even if there is no love we can eat
And vice versa …Kwani wen the woman is sick or not around that man will stay hungry,;
The only thing I find appealing is this part
“Being married should never define a man or a woman. Marriage in a few years anyways, will be out of fashion. Being married is only nice if we are lucky to pick a partner who will be our friend, if not, that maybe hell on earth. All of us must not get married if our threshold for nonsense and garbage is low. The world is obviously changing and we are no longer in the 60s. Who wants to be suffering and smiling. Most importantly marriage should not be a milestone for anyone. Yes o.”
Story for the gods!! we are African not European please!!
I’m A Great Cook, I Love This Lol…
Londiwe Zamalotshwa Ndwandwe happy now?
All the top chefs in the world are men. Charly boy is goat
can at least warm soup from the freezer and make eba….na wa oo
A man should once in awhile cook for his wife,but wives should that cook is not the man’s part to play in their marriage.
A man should once in awhile cook for his wife,but wives should that cook is not the man’s part to play in their marriage.
The bible teaches Christian women to be submissive to their husbands. So if you are a woman and can portray the spirit of submissiveness, then you are not doing the will if God. And this obviously is one major secret reason why Christian marriage of late don’t last cos women want to play equal with men.
Now I see the competition..?!
Charley boy is an old fool at his age he is still a BOY!!, I can’t expect anything better from him cos nothing is palatable about his marriage, the man of God has not said the man shouldn’t cook or assist the wife at home he only said don’t marry a girl that can’t cook. What all the wailers are saying is that marriage will be OK even if the woman can’t boil egg? Haha?
Charley boy is an old fool at his age he is still a BOY!!, I can’t expect anything better from him cos nothing is palatable about his marriage, the man of God has not said the man shouldn’t cook or assist the wife at home he only said don’t marry a girl that can’t cook. What all the wailers are saying is that marriage will be OK even if the woman can’t boil egg? Haha?
Who is Charlie boy
Thnk God hez charleyboy and not charleyman… Soo, much of his reaction isnt new. Insanity is now your abode..
So we are suppose to listen to an homosexual…The lion feeds it Cubs and protect them and meanwhile some women and men think what the pastor said was wrong. Please God end this world so we can start allover again.
Charly boy is a big fool
uyi na wa 4 u o. well, as long as she’s also working and bringing home money
I agree with u charly boy, men shd know how to cook as well, vice versa.
My husband must know how to cook , I will teach him how to do it
Charly boi hu cares abt ur tots…. get a life. .. daddy G o has spoken his mind no one can take it 4m him… keep ur tot 2 ur self. .. more ova ur not his church member….
remember the journey of life has no destination no formula , you need your own formula, some went into marriage through weird ways and others went inn in a good and memorable ways and came out tragedy
Please explain to me what you understand submissiveness means to you.
Both should know how to cook
this illuminati member is at it again. yesterday it was kemi omololu olounloyo, today it is area father.all on Pst Adeboye’s message. i tire o.
So when did women cooking become slavery? Christian marriage recognised the man as the head of the home and the man should love his wife as he loves his own body.So if my wife cooks she is cooking for herself and if I cook I am cooking for myself.Two shall become one that is what the bible says.People took what the man of God said out of contest!
cooking for my husband is not slavery but love and respect
U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602U0001f602 well in my house my mother thought everybody how to cook including my brothers and they cook very very well
there is nothing wrong
LORD I WANT TO BE FAMOUS, RECOGNIZED, AND RESPECTED MORE THAN PASTOR ADEBOYE.
For some days now the social medial has been battered over the statement of Pastor E.A Adeboye of ”Don’t marry a girl that cannot cook”
But before going into the main issue I noticed this three points
1) I noticed that people that have been forgotten for so long now use that opportunity to bring themselves back to the mind of people.
2) People that are not yet known but seeking an attention whether as a blogger, individual association e.t.c now use same comment to draw attention to themselves.
3) Some that are not in the good book of the public and knowing fully how Nigerians react to such issue also are getting thumb up for saying the right thing.
Like I said Dear Lord let my voice be recognised and respected whenever I speak.
I am saying this because I attended a large gathering where some one appealed to men not marry one wife and shortly after that I saw that statement on facebook. you know what ? As I speak that statement after that declaration has not gotten up to twenty comments or reaction.
So then, which one would you rather agree with “to marry more than one wife or don’t marry a wife that cannot cook” ?
My opinion.
What the man of God said is an advice and so it is optional. Beside the man was talking to his congregation and don’t forget that people we are talking about went there on their own volition even though it was by invitation. Then it is also left for them to take or reject whatever its been said there!
And about the statement. Daddy Adeboye did not say a man should not help or cook for his wife but he advice not to marry a woman who can’t cook?! Or are we are so social now that it is not an issue if a married woman can’t cook at all ? Even in western world women are known to be principal cook at home, women still cook for their family out there! And don’t forget the girl in question will later grow to be a woman, and a mother ! and you still think not knowing how to cook is not bad? But maybe because it is coming from someone like pastor Adeboye that has become a serious issue. Haha! Nigerians
And the men were also asked to love their wife as Christ love d church
Its my life! What and weather I know how to cook in my home is and should be my business. In my house, I am the boss and the commander in chief of my kitchen. Honestly speaking majorities of our African-Nigerian ladies and women learns to cook from their tender ages, even for the Nigerian culture and heritage its an honour and pride to be blessed with good cooking skills!
I can see that’s d only page u know in d Bible mtcheww
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you’ve got a point here.it was the context at which the messaged was understood by a couple of people which ain’t their fault too because we as humans must always look to see differently is how negative and positive came all about. Being cultured from were we’re coming comes with it’s attributes,but on the flip side,I’ve seen a couple of ladies who can’t cook…not like if they was taught they wouldn’t have wanted to learn. They was raised in an environment whereby their parents wouldn’t even want them go to the kitchen because they’ve got maids to work it out or some bunch of family members they use for anything errands or chores all around the house. we come from a country whereby when someone is rich culture can be neglected for the most part…they tryna make everything trendy when it ought to be a lifestyle.
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Fool, are u cooking for ur wife?
What a hell? What is the beuty of a woman if she can’t cook anyway? Ladies now only thought de only way to be a lady is to seduce men whit their nonsense so call sexy dressing.
Did the bible also said don’t marry a woman because she cannot cook? even if she is a good person
I think most people are taking this issues out of its content, both r right in their own way, I think the pastor was just saying (just my understanding though) that a good housewife, s quality consists also a good cooker per say while Mr Charles or charly boy was insinuating that men should also be a good cooker too to compliment each other to make their relationship go further. That’s what love is meant for. The problem here is that, eg, when some men try doing so , especially back in Africa , some of our people including the wife will start mocking him, calling him all sorts of names and all that, but a real man and a matured woman will respect her man cooking for her and the family when the need be , and a real man should brush off that stupid mentality that “men don’t cook” I cook for my wife and the entire family most of the time due to work and time schedule and my wife adore and love me with respect for doing just that, it hasn’t changed the respect she gives me each an everyday day and I challenge anyone who dare thinks of me different. We r in this together is my mentality and am still the man of the house trust me. It doesn’t make me any different from other guys.
Firstly,you should say a homosexual not an homosexual,and I don’t think he is not a homosexual by the way. Again,if you think there is nothing wrong with what the pastor said,tell me anywhere in the bible where it said men should not marry a woman because she doesn’t know how to cook,even if she is a good person? Or where it said you must marry a woman who must be able to stand and pray for one straight hour? Finally,a woman should cook for the family but a man should also cook depending on the circumstances,the woman may get sick sometimes and it would be the man’s duty to cook and serve the family,which mean,the man too should be able to cook not only the woman.
When u understand d importance of food to well being I think it is a necessity for u to b able to make urs bcus food is not a rock science inversely if u can’t cook anywhere in d world it a failure on Ur own part African society does smile at it this doesn’t say a wife is a slave but a “mother” in quote should b able spice up d family table
Nice 1 Uyiosa Obasohan
That is the reason why a woman should regardless of whatever a man does submit herself to him is bcos it’s an instruction from God. Men are to love there wife as Christ love the church. If a woman fails to submit herself to the husband, she does not only sin against her husband but God as well. It is an instruction from above. Woman should not play equal with their husbands because God doesn’t made it so. Women should allow God to act on there behalf. Unless you are not a Christian and do not understand the teachings of the bible. Some women are taking things for granted and that is the main reason why many marriages are falling quick. Women should understand that it is only God who have a say in there marital problems they do encounter in their marriages. In fact, they don’t have a say.
Lilly Patrick hope you get me
What does this one know! People like him thinks he is making sense!shiii
Sandra Mitchell please if you go to church, just get to your pastor, let him explain the word submissive according to biblical point of view. Better still screen shot my comment or copy it as a point of reference.
U are the only that has make a whole lot sense since have been reading comments here…people are so dumb they forgot that it’s just an advice from an elderly man! Oro agba bio se lowo ro be pe titi ase lojo ale!
And why would any lady think of getting Married without knowing how to cook?learn how to cook before thinking of that!
I would prefer to applaud Charles boy than he so called pastor my foot….If it was an imam that said that then people will say it’s the way Muslims handles women or it’s thier religion method U0001f602
All these people saying Pastor Adebayo is wrong and spewing trash……I am sure they’ll be happy to go to Mr Biggs,Tantalizer,KFC,sweet sensation and ordering food around as if they are bachelors………What are u marrying for if you get home and you eat indomie everyday?Na make up u go chop……Those of you spewing trash…….I wish u get a wife that can’t open her mouth to pray at all…….and i wish u become the costumer of the month each month at Mr Biggs for marrying someone who only knows how to make up and cooks you only watery indomie……
Anybody complaining about daddy G O comments is jobless
Women this.. Women that.. Women na doll baby wey no get sense?
Thanks @ suleman
Who is soo called chaly boy To challenge man of God?
ofkoz yes….no one is a slave.
What is wrong if the man also can cook what if the woman is sick or she travelled. I have a son am teaching how to cook.
Why should people listen to a counsel of a natural man who work with his five canal sense to compel a man of God who see thing from a spiritual perspective.
Pls stop talking against the man of God, why will a woman don’t know how to cook. If she cant cook then she is not a wife material
Why is it that men find it wrong for a man to do the ‘role’ of a woman….cook and do house chores to help the woman in the house but they do not find any problem with the woman doing the ‘role’ of a man…working and helping the man to make money and provide for the family
U all r great men
Agboola Temitope Asabi Mathew 6 24 , mathew 19 21. Proverbs 23 vs 4, james 5 vs 5
Jerry wats wrong in a man knowing hw to cook. this is not 1945 it is 2016. cooking doesn’t downgrade us as guys it doesn’t make u to stop being d head of d home or ur wife to stop working nd paying bills it is simply supporting nd assiting ur wife to make your home pleasurable.
I wonder why some people are taking dis issue of cooking do personal? is it bcos the advice was given by a man of God? moreover most men complained that they can’t marry a woman that can’t cook for them. so why shld pastor Adeboye’s advice become a topic of discussion? In Naija ,we all know that cooking( food,) is one element of our culture. So pls put a stop to dis unnecessary argument, it is uncalled for.
as long as she’s assisting with d bills too. I’ll assist her cook. but hey I can cook tho
lol i know u can nau
If you love her, teach her how to cook. Every body learn every day.
God bless u@uy
amen nd amen to you zanda
So African men should not cook for their wives abi. Are u for real @collins Ezeadum
Yh ryt.U African men twist things to suit urselves
With Nigeria, even in the developed country and the economy, Anybody can lost his or her job any given time, a woman that can cook before wedding can become sick suddenly and anything can happen, a woman that can pray can suddenly change or even backslides,,a man that is a General manager in a bank can be sack a day after his explosive wedding, ,,,, these should never be our motives for getting married
No condition is permanent, but what is permanent is LOVE, AGAPE LOVE, THE TYPE THAT JESUS SHOWED US, when we are still sinners, God showed us mercy because he loves us.
HENCE THAT Should be the motive for marriage
GUYS LISTEN TO DR DK olukoya talk on marriage
But for me weting pastor talk know be lie oh na only woman wey know sabi cook go get angry for this comment some other women self know sabi plate hair but e know really mata shaa love na love
Meaning? Only European men cook for their wives?
This dude needs a chill pill
Charle boy , the pastor was speaking to his church members, I don’t think he came to your house to talk. Better carry your shameless self out of here .
@ Agboola Temitope Arabi is because u don’t know how to cook I can’t marry a woman don’t know how to cook because I don’t think cooking is my duty in a family mtcheww u too… Hahahahah
am very very sorry for those of you that understand not the things of the spirit, baba adeboye words are for God peoples not devil peoples so if you are not a born again the message is not for you i advice you to silent remembered TOUCH NOT MY ANOINTED AND DO MY PROPHET NO HARM
Everyone is a slave of something that has conquered him.
Birds of the same feather.