I’m in my early 20s and in love with a 28-year-old man. He has a good job and he is quite nice to me. I always feel that any girl who is not a virgin should not
marry him. We have been together for a year and he has promised marrying me but he doesn’t know my past deeds. I have this innocent and youthful look and he would never know that so far, I’ve dated 12 guys and I’ve had seven abortions. He has planned our marriage for October and I feel guilty not telling him what I had done. I feel that if I tell him, he could change his mind and break up with me. I don’t think I can get another man like him. What do I do? Tell him and lose him? Or keep quiet and get married?
Y.A,
Abuja –
My dear my advice 2 u is to tell him now dat u are not married if he really luv u he will marry u bcos if he found out later or someone dat knw ur past tell him it will b dangerous
Pls it better to tell him now dan later cus it be dangerous later….Goodluck dr!
Broken relationship is better Dan broken marriage,if he is urs he will surely don’t count it,n bliv is in d past.so my sis pls tell him
Itss a litl bit hard but try to be true to him fo a better 2mrw
kwani is he virgin himself?may be he has done more worse things than you!
Yy shud u tell him?? Has he ever told u anytin 4rm his past?? My dear let d past die n rest in peace if u truly love ur man n he loves u then 4get saying a word bcos he’ll definitely judge u by it n u’ll leave 2 regret all ur life, enjoy wat u’ve got bcos no man is a saint..
U better tell him now rather to know later, it can course problem in big time
go are head past is story don,t let people leed u from something to nothing no one know tomorow go on
Let ur past be past nd if the guy did not ask u anything about ur past, I don’t see any reason of telling him, what matter is presence nd love
I wish u all the best
Tell him cos its ur past and free ur mind and soul, He will never leave u rather he will be proud of u and even luv u more fr telling him.
It better you tell him now . He will forgive you and marry if he really loves you
my dear sis.my advice to u is to ask him of his past then u go on ur kneel wit BIBLE IN HAND nd say urs to him .i pray in d name of God Almighty dt is full of MERCY u shall received Mercy in JESUS NAME AMEN.u will not loose ur man if God say YES nobody can say no.
Una don come wt stupid post?
Sister you mean you kill seven babys ,if you tell him he can forgive you, but you have to ask God to forgive you as well
d fact is that u should tell him if he truly loves u he will marry u.bt it is also his fault wen u were courting he did nt ask abt ur past or anything u’ve done dat is bad.jst have faith in GOD.if u r destined togeda u will be togeda.have faith.
Honesty is a key ingredient in any relationship jst let him kw 2 avoid any future disaster,i think broken relationship it’s beta in d morni dan evni think twice.
dear everyone has paat life.it only wen u av issues in conceiving dt wen u can tell him as long as u dnt av dt u can burry ur past nd keep going
First ask ask God for MERCY for the abortions and fornication. Its only God that can touch his heart to accept your past. Open up to him now before marriage, else you may regret it when you are married. If you decide to keep the secret and get married, you never can tell if you come across an ex or a friend that knows your past. Trust me, it will be more embarrassing by then. Also if your husband is aware of your past and he forgives you, you can both go to the doctor to check your medical condition to see if you can still conceive. If he truly loves you, he will stand by you.
If he does not accept, leave him. He may also have his past he’d want to share. We are all sinners afterall.
You’re still young, seek advice from older ones and know that marriage is a long term agreement. Look before you leap !
You are a beautiful lady,just be faithful and stick to your Bible if you don’t have one get it now before it’s too late. And also repent