Following the tragic death of Ronke Shonde, Ladies are sharing their own experiences. Below is Nkiruka’s survivor story. She shared the post on Instagram.
“The domestic violent story that led to the death of Ronke Bewaija Shonde today broke my heart and took me back to memory lane. Yes that is my ex husband and I, I was just 19 years on that photo. you can see the innocence in my eyes.
We where perfect , very perfect , outside but we fought inside .
You see that smile on that picture was plastic .
I was beaten to the alter on my wedding day .What happened because I was tired and refused to pack plate .
I swallowed it and matched to the alter .
With tears In my eyes the pastor asked will you take him as your husband for better for worse , till death do you part?? Tears rolled down my eyes but the crowed clapped , screaming tears of joy ??.I embarked on the journey of marriage .
At the age of 19 years I endured like a lion .
This fine young man here is an animal .He beat me up and even beat up my younger once . The day he beat me to coma , he was beating my lifeless body before he was stopped and I was rushed to the hospital .
Do you know what my mother in law told me as I gained consciousness , she said (nkiru, lucky will beat you again o, get ready cause the father beat me too )
I went back in to coma .He begged and I went back home .
This continued until I decided to face reality .
But the truth is , do you know why we women endure domestic violence ???1) financial security . Yes I was scared to leave because I did not know how to begin financially .
2) society .. Yes after bragging to my friends , and society see you as a lucky perfect girl you will want to keep it that way .
3) loneliness … Yes you are scared if u will find someone better . I was saying who will marry me again , with my boobs like this , stretch marks , milk was still coming out of my boobs as of then , my big tommy etc , I was insecure , so I stayed.
Until one day , I woke and took a strong decision to walk away .
And when I left I left with nothing .I left empty handed and embarked of this journey .
I kept repeating my name , Nkiruka , Nkiruka , Nkiruka (my future is bigger ) until I reached my destination .Now I can hit my chest and tell myself I took the right step, even tho I never knew where I was going”
Yet Another lady shared her own tale of Domestic violence…She revealed hers while commenting on Facebook about the tale of Ronke.
She claims her husband comes home late at night, sometimes drunk…and he beats her everyday with cutlass, and tries to target her eye. She says her Parents told her not to come back to their house as she was the one who chose to marry him.
She also says she’s broke..as she cannot move out of her matrimonial home where her husband beats her everyday. Read Below:
Still battling with mine, comes home late in the night, beat me with cutlass especially targeting my eye, Parent warned me not to come back hom because I chose him…I’m Financially broke to move out and get an apartment…He tore my certificate, drops no money, still hoping on God to send an helper because I’m fed up, with 2 wonderful kids.
Ignorant is a great disease
Go abroad and try that nonsense and see where u end up.
U can only try that BS in 9ja where women are of no value to their men. Try it in UK or US ND see where it gets u.
It’s a shame we treat our women like this, but these same men go abroad, date oyinbo who insult them up and down, dnt cook or clean for them, embarras them in public but u so called 9ja men who wants respect will lick oyinbo woman’s feet and rub their back and kiss their ass. What a shame
Good it’s about time, if ure dishing it out be ready to receive it.
Collins m Ekele am sure you are one of them that beat up women if you have a daughter, sister and mother let them be abuse then you will know where the shoe hurt.
Hmm, to your story I can see you get married to this man because he impregnated you at age 19 and there was no option but to marry him, I think some women need to watch the kind of life partner they choose, you are lucky you did not die, once again ladies should notice this, if your partner get so much angry over unnecessary issues and beat you all the time, these are some reasons, he is tired of you and want you to leave Or he have some brain problem and this is serious it might end him up by killing you
Yep, she got married at age 19 which means she did not even got a job or anything before married