I’m really heartbroken right now and I need to get this out of me as I don’t know what to do. I have been with my husband for over 7yearsand married 5. Been praying to God for children. Came back home from work early this afternoon to find him with this girl on our matrimonial bed.
She had just taken her top off on top of him. It really hurts mostly because I am a devoted wife and Christian and he knows very well what my home means to me….My bed for that matter
We have been best friends since we got married and we hardly have any friends left as we are always together.. It’s been great and although something always reminds me that a man will be a man. I never thought he could bring a stranger into our home…..my bed
She said they met on FB and this was the first time they saw each other physically. She was very apologetic, she didn’t realise he is married. They were just starting when I walked in and she said they’ve never had the main thing.
For the last 3 yrs I’ve covered 98% of all our expenses. He doesn’t earn much so I pay for everything……the rent …everything plus any other financial support you can think of. I feel so used. He is divorced and his previous wife left him for the same reason. I should have dug deeper before we got married but love covered my eyes.
The normal me wants to close this chapter completely by walking away and just starting my life afresh. But being a christian the spirit of God in me is saying I should exercise patience. Which I know is the right thing but will be difficult.
What’s most upsetting is his lack remorse. I kicked him out of the house when I let the the girl out as I just couldn’t stand him. He came back hours after to pick his bag…which I am happy about as I need a break. Gosh my blood is BOILING……the normal me is so tempted to react.
Please someone tell me what you’ll do in this situation. I am home and tempted to go back out and just start a new life.
try as much as u can not to go too far I know ur kind of husband is not d responsible type look closely n see if he his d type dat would not do such again but if is such think of option 2
Forgive him, look at cross nd do dat
U ve stated very clear dat, u @ a good Christian to err is human to forgive is divine. sometimes d one u love most is d one u offend most. Forgive and forget peter said to Jesus how many times did my brother offend me,Jesus said 70x so u must forgive him give and give him another Change. Most importantly fulfill ur marital obligation by satisfying is emotional needs,bcos if u hurt his emotional feelings he will cheat or find anoda woman den show him d light by bringing him to christ
Pls madam. look out for ur most closest friend to stay with its not good for u to be alone in a time like ds. D devil may take advantage of d pains in ur heart now and will suggest some tin dt may keep u regreting for d rest of ur life. pls u need some body to talk to especially in d night.
My dear sorry for that, bt sending him out is nt the best thing I think now is d time u need to show him love most. I know dis might a bit difficult bt I want u to remember dat love doesn’t keep record of wrong deeds. Also remember he is still ur husband.
u nd to be gd on bed,but as far ur husband is a divorcy,it may be his character,try to read him quickly,b4 ur time is wasted.
u need to forgive him because for you to look for another man now will be another black market
Men Are Made To Love Their Wife With All Their Heart And To Be Their Head,Not To Be Lazy And Walk Around,pls Dear Forgive Him Please
thank God u r a good Christian or so u claimed, in d first place u r not his wife cos in God’s eyes his 1st wife remain his true wife until death do dem part. the only way u could call urself his wife is when he has paid ur pride price n did nt pay hers, bt aside dat ur r just his concubine. so if am corre, u need to let him go, start ur life all over again with asking God 4 4givness n wait 4 ur right man or else things like dis ll still happen cos he is nt ur mr right.
leave this idiot, he will give you more problems since he did it with the first wife before, true he is not responsible
search 4 another husband and leave him completely
my dear for give him nd move on wit ur life all men ar d same is Jst few Dat have d grace of GOD in dem,jst be urself nd watch him closely b4 u mk up ur mind on wat to do.l,BT let it nt be too late mk up ur mind on Tim nd tell GOD to direct u plsssss
ey gal move on
my dear,if u are actually a gud xtian,u would not hv entered in2 dt marriage in d 1st place bc u would hv known dt every 2nd wife is a strange woman n not a wife according to d word of God which is d standard of every child of God d4 my advice 2 u is to let dt man go live his life d way he has chosen,n u focus n believe God 4 ur own husband who I know will give u a fulfilled life bc going by wat u said,dt man’s wife is still alive bt left him bc of his infidelity n unfaithfulness.
Ok. This is a very sad story but i must confess my dear you have a part to play why???? He should not be at home like a wify siting there and you slave yourself for him. An idol mind is a devils camp. So he now has the nerve to go fb because apparently without any ambition and you put a silver spoon in his mouth thats why he behaive in such a stupied MANNER Iresponsible. Anyway now that his gone, i know that is very painful and discouraging but this is the time you must put yourself in the hands of God to completely take over this delima and however God intervines let it be. Because he has committed adultry be you first second or third wife. He has committed adultry and its unacceptable in the eye s of God. If a man is not satified with his wife heust give the woman a letter of a divorce. Wrong is wrong. Theres no excuse to some evil acts because he was very much aware of the actions that he performed.
Pls move on with ur hobby ok, remmember untill date do u part.