I’m a single woman in my 30’s and my problem is that I cannot find a man and I honestly have no idea why. I’mattractive and all my friends say I’m a nice
person. I’m aware that you can meet a man at any time, not just when you’re out socially on Saturday nights, so I never step out of the house looking anything less than perfect. I keep to my trim figure, dress nicely, well-groomed and, because I was aware I was being too choosy, I’ve tried hard to give men I don’t even fancy a chance. But now men just don’t seem to find me attractive at all. I don’t get chatted up though I make sure that I look friendly and approachable when l’m out. l’m at my wits’ end and honestly don’t know what else to do. Philo, by e-mail
Dear Philo,
Your whole being seems to be devoted to finding this person, who, I suspected, you feel will complete you. You’re not just eager to meet someone, it has become an obsession.
The problem with being so fanatical about something is that it makes you come across as a bit neurotic. Men spot desperate women a mile off and the sensible, nice ones, make a run for it realising you want a life-jacket, not a boyfriend. The not so nice men single you out, figuring you’re a great candidate for someone they can treat badly, knowing you’ll put up with it because you’ll do anything not to be alone. You don’t sound like you are at that stage yet, but you’re not far of! You need to stop looking and turn all this energy inward.
Throw yourself into enjoying your career, enjoy your friends rather than using them as emotional crutches, read books, see movies you like, go to the gym, make new friends and find new things to enjoy. Also stop looking so perfect. Nails always polished, not a hair out of place could put people of! You sound like the girl who turns up at a barbecue in killer-heels and your little black dress when everyone else is in casuals, just in case there might be a single man present. This is termed ‘the single girl look’ and it’s often unattractive. For a change, aim for the just got out of bed look.’
This is bound to attract more men as they see a woman who looks perfect, and not think ‘high maintenance’ or ‘she must be desperate for a man’. If you really want to get a man, leave your hair all messy, pull on your oldest pair of your favourite jeans, add a pair of casual slippers and a vest, but make sure your bra is showing. Put on the barest minimum of make-up and a mysterious smile that says ‘who cares in meet a man? I’m here to have fun!’ and see what happens. Then sit back and enjoy all the attention that is bound to come your way.
wow, if dt just came frm a dude, den m struck, damn such articulity nd presiceness, u r so gud u shud b a counselor
Hmmm lord have mercy
When you are young @18 you are forming like queen of England and you think guys are stupid, now you are crying for a husband Ndo ooh
Ahhh thats not good oooo
Hehehe.. Sory .. Check ur background .. Ur relationship. Ur spirituality. And put God first..
Check ur previous “runs girl” life.
Okay I toast you bread
Are you a bread? U0001f3c3U0001f3fdU0001f3c3U0001f3fdU0001f3c3U0001f3fd
Go close God,every thing will be easy for you..
U be bread?
Repent Jesus is coming again
Must be one of dem ladies that won’t shut up …….ever. lol
hw u tk no say u r attractive
You need to get yourself a toasting machine. Buy your own toasting machine, woman!
Wow so can I toaste u?
Inbox me I have guys in my hand, u just come and pick d 1 u like.
Must everything be on social network
God will not for sack you
This is what happens when the witches follow you from the village to the city…lol. Just kidding thoughU0001f609
Talk to men as well don’t wait them to talk to you!
Go to God in prayer
Very sorry girl
you were looking for big guys in tonw
Oooo , great advice. I love it. God bless you.
Your appearance too high but don’t be too low,
At least average.
she was too rude and any rude girl always end up in her fathers compound so let her go now
Sorry sis all shall b well
i dont get it, repentance about what?
even wen she gets to 50?
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Very correct. Nice one
Your Mentality toward men maybe the cos!
Wowwww… Amazing words! Please I’ll like to add you up bcos I blv I can learn from you and add to my wisdom archive. Lol
But that’s the truth.
Pride in most Africa women are really denying them what’s truly theirs and true happiness.
Yes ooo…. You have a good point.
Lolzz @Nino Brown that’s so hilarious.
A lady of 30yrs ain’t that old.
To me character is all that matters either 20yrs or 40yrs… Character is what counts. Life is too short and we deserve to be happy before we all say bye bye to this world. Ok my frnd.
You only can tell us the reason bcux u knw ursef better than us
If you gud lady add me so we talk something gud
Looking business partners pls add me on facebook.
if you ask me na who i go ask
Fans of truth let’s interact more
Is simply because you have expired.. Your time Don pass.. Am sure when men where asking you out, you were forming hard to get.. You thought that was how it was gonna be?? You no know say younger generation dey come up abi??
Ma dear cal mi or watsup mi 0540699496 so we talk
Ah! Buh dah doesn’t mean ya first luv must bi ya last luv? Sum jez wanna pluck and go
Maybe its only you that sees your self attractive
Put yourself in presentable manner, avoid bad groups
Twwwwwwww ugh foolishness is a very serious thing
Run a salvation race and the best shall come for u
Because there are girls at their twenties who can be more fun. What did u do with ur twenties?
First ask urself how many men u have slept with forgive me , each time u sleep with a man there is an exchange that takes place I have also learnt some men use women star especially those rich other women husband that some girls prefer to go out with, so u know urself more than any body go tru the list renounce each one of them and break everything that still link u to dem and forgive urself too, and most especially stay far away from other women husband.
First ask urself how many men u have slept with forgive me , each time u sleep with a man there is an exchange that takes place I have also learnt some men use women star especially those rich other women husband that some girls prefer to go out with, so u know urself more than any body go tru the list renounce each one of them and break everything that still link u to dem and forgive urself too, and most especially stay far away from other women husband.
Men donn’t like ladies who sleep around with guys in the name of civilization.
Men donn’t like ladies who sleep around with guys in the name of civilization.
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Search ur character baby may be your doing sm think that is not good,and u have to be praying for your self,may god bless you with man
Eagle ragge I disagree wit u, if a woman coms n present her feelings 2u, wudnt u consider her as being cheap??? Oh na for my maut u wan here say ogbono soup dey draw?
Become a born again Christian and pray. Men will not toast u but marry you is not about being attractive but about who is in control
U don’t need toaters around u did time,wat u should be thinking of is settling down.so be focus bcos DAT has to do wit prayer and God.
Coz u ride a high horse….
Next question please!!
Emelda MmaNwa Agugonwa and Edidiong Emah, I feel your concerns but personally i won’t say such because anyone can start the game running in as much you are doing what is right you don’t need to listen to what people will say
Hmmm that is life for you there re girl’s that guys are chatting they feel your distributing them not knowing that this life is deep my dear it’s well
Africans mentality is different entirely they might regard ladies as harlot for doing such
you toast them
Eru Olorun, so is it by being worried that she will get ,married?
Eru Olorun, so is it by being worried that she will get ,married?
Every woman has three phrase in life….. The hot phrase. During this hot phrase men will line up for you, most smart women look into the future and make smart choice who the wannabe with. Second phrase is when men starts to dissapear slowly, women still have a chance but limited.
Final phrase, all men will dissapear, this phrase is critical because 16 yr old boy will lie them and the will believe. It’s always good to sell fresh fish when market is full, you control the price , but when market is empty the customer control the price. I bet you don’t want customer to control the price.
Every woman has three phrase in life….. The hot phrase. During this hot phrase men will line up for you, most smart women look into the future and make smart choice who the wannabe with. Second phrase is when men starts to dissapear slowly, women still have a chance but limited.
Final phrase, all men will dissapear, this phrase is critical because 16 yr old boy will lie them and the will believe. It’s always good to sell fresh fish when market is full, you control the price , but when market is empty the customer control the price. I bet you don’t want customer to control the price.
Such is life have u bean faithful to ur self b4
The question is, how many men have u send away so far?? And if u are attractive as u say, what abt your attitude towards people?? Anyway prayer is the best.
Reduce the make up n relax when u see men. The bragging n too known is too much. U scare them away
I am into a happy relationship. And do you know how I met my queen? I went to play piano for a jazz and classical music concert at a 5star hotel. she met me after and made me a friend. she took my number and we started chatting for some weeks until one very early morning, she told me her mind. I meditated over it for few days and gave her a yes.
She shld giv her life to Christ Jesus and do His will, dat’s wat d (repentance) means
Did the girl ever mention that she has no God in her liffe? And does having no husband means one is not serving God? Go to church and see how many ladies, ladies in the lord who are without husbands and are getting close to 40. Sit down there.
You are so intelligent
Thank you Debel Ajiboye
Yes had a hard time dating in China. invited them out and they told everyone I am desperate.
Your market don dey reach expire date, so the demand won’t be much anymore